I'm now currently and miraculously 16 weeks pregnant naturally, however we thought we couldn't get pregnant naturally and I've had two full rounds of IVF plus a couple of FETs.
The diagnosis we had was male factor infertility, dh had only 2% normal forms and we had to have icsi. We paid for the treatment as we already have a naturally conceived ds.
After the second round failed the private consultant gave me a consultation (which didn't happen after the first round) and asked if we had private medical cover. When I said yes he then told me he thought there were problems with me as well and he advised a laparoscopy as I might have endometriosis, which would cost £4000 but our insurance should cover it.
When I said that I didn't have any symptoms at all of endo he advised me to go to my gp and state I had painful periods, bleeding between periods, pain during sex and bleeding after sex so that I could be referred back to him under the private medical cover for a lap.
I did not do this and we decided at this point to try donor treatment as I felt so disheartened with trying with our own eggs and sperm as he also told me I might have an egg problem but wouldn't be drawn on why he thought this. I am only 32 with good egg reserve apparently. We had to go abroad for this treatment and this required a smear test in the last 12 month. Again we paid for it as I wasn't due one on the nhs and unfortunately it was the same consultant. When I went in he asked whether I'd sorted out the medical insurance for the lap and I said I wasn't going ahead with it. He pushed me on it again and then did the smear test which was absolute agony. Never had any problems with pelvic examinations before. The test then caused some bleeding which he then told me could be cancerous polyps. He told me it needed immediate investigation as it was abnormal to bleed during a smear test and showed me photos of cancerous polyps. He said he could do the lap and investigate any polyps at the same time.
I left in tears having gone from having a male factor diagnosis to being told I'd probably got endo, poor egg quality and polyps which were possibly cancerous.
Anyway the smear came back normal, I went to see me own GP who told me bleeding happens in about a third of smears and had another pelvic examination which was completely pain free.
Even though I'm now pregnant naturally I can't seem to let this go. I wish I'd made a complaint at the time - it's been a year now. Should I just let it lie? It seems so wrong. I was really vulnerable at the time and could easily have done what he'd told me to, thus defrauding the insurance and putting myself through unnecessary surgery.
Sorry it's so long.