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To not mind public displays of affection but

36 replies

Donotknowhownottomind · 20/08/2015 23:07

not when they end with hand squarely on bum (close to me on a crowded bus)

Hmm.

Am I a prude and what are the most "inappropriate" pdas you have witnessed?

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lessonsintightropes · 20/08/2015 23:29
Biscuit
MsTargaryen · 20/08/2015 23:32

I won't biscuit you because I always feel a bit awkward with pda when it's in close quarters like that. Like the time I was in the queue to pay for shopping and the guy in front kept rubbing his lady friends bum crack. Not really nice.

Donotknowhownottomind · 20/08/2015 23:33

Hmm why a Biscuit?

Was on a bus this evening - felt uncomfortable because of said hand on bum (for quite a while), wondered if I am past it or if others feel uncomfortable too?

By asking for others' stories I was asking for things along the lines of loud kissing not x rated movies Hmm.

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Donotknowhownottomind · 20/08/2015 23:35

Though I apologise if I came across wrong.

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Rockaria · 20/08/2015 23:38

I've just posted a thread about PDAs on trains! You are NBU!

PolkadotsAndMoonbeams · 20/08/2015 23:51

I knew a couple at university who'd walk around with their hands in each others' back pockets. Very very odd.

MidniteScribbler · 20/08/2015 23:58

A few years ago I was on a flight and the couple in the row opposite me (I had a row to myself, they had the opposite row to themselves) decided to watch porn on their laptop and got over excited and obviously thought that the mile high club could be joined whilst in your seat. She ended up with he r head in his lap with his trousers unzipped. I complained to the hostess (yes, I'm an old fuddy duddy), and they were warned to stop. They continued on and were met by the federal police upon their arrival in Australia. Seriously people, there's a time and place for everything.

cocobean2805 · 21/08/2015 00:05

My DH will occasionally push his luck and attempt a PDA (hand on bum, lingering kiss) he knows I'm not one for it and he usually preempts the expected arm punch by getting out of reaching distance sharpish. I don't think I'm a prude, but I don't like watching it, so I don't see why others should have to see ua so it! I use the meter stick of if I wouldn't do it in front of my Grandma, I won't do it in public!

iAmNicolaMurray · 21/08/2015 00:10

Not 100% sure if this classifies as a PDA BUT I used to be friends with a couple and a group of us would go to the pub together. We'd all be sitting around the table chatting and the boyfriend would stick his finger in the girlfriend's mouth and just leave it there. Nobody round the table would mention it.

AcrossthePond55 · 21/08/2015 01:31

Hand on bum? That's all? Someone just resting their hand on their partner's bum doesn't bother me a bit. Now if they're kneading or rubbing it, that's a bit Hmm.

MostIneptThatEverStepped · 21/08/2015 01:35

I was once jammed in tight on the barrier at a gig next to this girl. Her boyfriend was on her other side, had his arm round her and kept running his hand up and down her side which funnily enough meant he was also running his hand up and down my side. Pretty annoying to say the least.

ShakesBootyFlabWobbles · 21/08/2015 01:36

iamnic Shock Shock Shock

So weird. The act, as well as the silence.

iAmNicolaMurray · 21/08/2015 08:59

I think none of us knew what to say! He didnt remove his finger straight away when the girlfriend wanted to speak so spluttered like a child with a dummy until he did. Things would have been a lot less weird if it was a dummy in her mouth.

DawnOfTheDoggers · 21/08/2015 09:10

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gamerwidow · 21/08/2015 09:14

I hate PDAs in close quarters like the couple getting off with each other in the seat opposite me on the train once or the people snogging on the step below me on the escalator. So close I thought I'd involuntary joined a ménage a trois.

User543212345 · 21/08/2015 09:17

I saw a couple lying on a sofa in a pub (after work so not super late) full on snogging. I spoke to the staff to ask them to stop once he slid his hand into the front of her jeans. Bleurgh.

ToTheGups · 21/08/2015 09:21

Hand on bun wouldn't bother me but finger in mouth? What the actual f?

WendyTorrance · 21/08/2015 09:21

'Mild' PDA's don't bother me. However, whilst buying ice cream for the kids in a shop recently, one of the waitresses was having a tea break with her boyfriend (both around 17). As I glanced over to where they were sitting (in the window), she was standing and he was sitting with his hand between her legs rubbing her fanny. They stopped when they realised that I had seen them but ffs, this is a shop full of kids! They got a very hard stare from me, I can tell you.

Nabootique · 21/08/2015 09:31

A hand on the bum wouldn't bother me too much but I was bothered a while ago on a bus when there was a teen couple snogging incessantly and VERY LOUDLY for the entire journey. It wasn't even the fact that they were kissing, as easy to avoid looking (they were sat behind me) but the noise was ridiculous. Not moaning or anything, just very loud slurpy, wet smacking lip noises.

TantrumsAndBalloons · 21/08/2015 10:49

I was walking BigDog in the park on Saturday afternoon and there was a couple having sex on the bench.

Now that was inappropriate

DontHaveAUsername · 21/08/2015 11:06

It wouldn't bother me but if it was stuff like what Wendy or Tantrums said yes it would.

JeanneDeMontbaston · 21/08/2015 11:13

I tend to think people hugging/kissing in public is quite sweet, TBH. I mean, no one wants to see teenagers massaging each others' larynxes, but can't we all remember being teenagers?

Groping arses does strike me as a bit bleugh, though, and anything where you're in a crowded space is a bit off.

OTheHugeManatee · 21/08/2015 11:54

Count yourself lucky. My office faces a hotel, which has floor-to-ceiling glass windows and - inexplicably - no net curtains. The guests there seem strangely oblivious to the fact that some 300 office workers can see everything they do.

Usually it's just half-dressed people, but this morning a couple of the guests there were SHAGGING with the curtains open Shock

Strictly speaking that's not a public display of affection, but in practice it was pretty damn public Hmm

bilbodog · 21/08/2015 12:47

What - Manatee - I would be ringing up the hotel if I had to look at that!

GoooRooo · 21/08/2015 12:50

Manatee I would so be holding up a sign at the window that says "We can see you shagging. 6/10"