To want more than a slow cooker.....

[hufflebottom]

For my birthday.

Dp asked me what I wanted for my birthday, I gave him a specific DVD.

Open my present this morning, to find he had bought me a slow cooker. I've reached my mid twenties and I get a sodding slow cooker for my birthday. Dp is lucky he doesn't live with me or spent the night last night or he might of been wearing it.

Ok it was something I mentioned I wanted to get months ago but I told him it could wait for when the weather gets colder.

This is just a long line of things that dp has been frustrating me with lately.

To top it off all the plans for today fell through, so sitting at home with dd watching DVDs, with dinner in my new slow cooker.

I went to the shops to buy a birthday cake for me and dd to have ta evening then realise I didn't pick up candles. I wanted to blow a candle out on my birthday.

I'm also 3 months pregnant so that probably isn't helping. So feel like a hormonal bag of shit.

I know I shouldn't moan as some people might not get anything on their birthday but I'm a bit put out considering I had given him a specific DVD that I really wanted and hadn't bought as i thought I might of got it.

Oh bless you.
It's horrible when you don't get what you want and you've been very specific.
Can you go out again now and get a candle?
No doubt hormones are playing a part but have a chat with your OH and find out what happened to the DVD you specifically requested.
Congrats by the way and try to enjoy the rest of your day.
Happy birthday

Dd has said it doesn't matter and we can have a nice day.

She's 5 going on 15

Happy birthday OP

I promise you that you absolutely fall in love with your slow cooker. You will thank your DP many times (secretly) for having the foresight to know that a DVD couldn't possibly bring you the same amount of happiness when you save yourself hours of slaving over a hot stove, or walk in to a hot meal ready to plate up after taking the DCs to run off energy at the local park.

Here's a 100 recipes for you to browse:

www.cookinglight.com/food/top-rated-recipes/slow-cooker-favorites/view-all

Happy birthday

It's a thoughtful present, you said you wanted one and he obviously listened!

Enjoy it. Lots of great recipes online.

Take it back to the shop and exchange it for something you would like.

Personally I love practical gifts, but I can understand if you don't.

I wanted to blow a candle out on my birthday.

This however is being a little childish.

Ooooo recipes. Will have a nosey later. Currently have a chilli in it at the mo and smells lovely. Means I don't have to attempt to cook later.

Cheers goblin, nice to know I'm not allowed to be childish on my birthday it's only once a year. Yes it's only a candle but I thought it's usually a nice thought to blow one out...I stand corrected.

Having snuggles with dd on the sofa.

Of course you should have candles to blow out on your birthday.

I'm old but still have a cake and candle - for kids benefit really!

Wow goblin even my parents in their 70's get candles on their cake to blowout on their birthday.
It's an absolute must in my family.
Lights out, candles lit, the sound of terrible voices trying to sing Happy Birthday, then you get to blow out your candles and make a wish.
Why else have a birthday?

I love my slow cooker! enjoy.

To be fair, he picked up on you saying you wanted something, and got it for you, so, yes, YABabitU.
However, you should keep candles in the cupboard to be ready for each birthday. That's what we do

Yanbu, it's nice to have a cake and candles but there is some strange mn rule about not caring about your birthday once you're an adult.

Saying that, you will love your slow cooker I promise.

I think it was pretty thoughtful of him. You say you mentioned it a while back so he has obviously kept it in his mind to get you. And you are using it today so you must be a bit keen on it!

I'm slightly coming round to it.
Think I'm just deflated that I wasn't expecting it.

Cheers guys for making me realise it's not the end all.

All have a on me

Now you are being unreasonable!

You forgot to thank all MNetters on this thread for the lovely birthday cake - with candles you can try to blow out. I even donned my whizzy fairy godmother outfit for you. [wink}

Omg sadwidow you're so right.

Lovely mumsnetters, thank you so much.

Aw huffle you sound lovely, and definitely not U to feel disappointed with a present if it wasn't what you wanted, or to want to blow out candle. But I'd say that personally I'd think of a slow cooker as a bigger 'thing' than a DVD - maybe your DH thought he wanted to get you more than 'just' a DVD and remembered that you mentioned this. And as for the candles, if your DH is a practical minded sort maybe he just doesn't 'get' why you might like this! Just trying to say doesn't have to mean he's heartless. Tbh I'm a fan of giving specific instructions about stuff like this in a light-hearted vein - I'd seriously mention to your DH that you like a nice birthday cake at a time when you're both hanging out and relaxed. Hope you have a lovely rest-of-birthday, and don't be afraid to let DH know that you'd like to be made a fuss of for the evening.

Had a lovely day with dd. tucking into birthday cake now. I think I've got over this morning now.

Kinda giggling and rolling my eyes at myself for getting wound up with it.

Okay cue music ... Ready Mumsnetters?

Happy birthday hufflebottom from all of us on Mumsnet.

Thank you. That was brilliant.

yanbu your dp sounds like he needs educating that anything connected to housework is not acceptable for a birthday present.

Slow cookers rock though.