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To think I should go to HR with this?

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IAmALentilWeaver · 19/08/2015 15:29

I work in a middle-sized company. I was helping the Top Boss with something in their office (I am just a normal employee, not management) and conversation was had between us about the help I was giving and why something in particular could or couldn't be done. Said Boss then leaves me alone in office to finish off fixing the problem. I then have to leave the office and move down a corridor to check something else.
The Boss is in a another office complaining about me loud enough to carry down the corridor to other employees (All on same "level" as me).

Effectively he was saying "Lentil shouldn't speak to me like that, I'm The Boss, if I say 'jump' Lentil should only reply 'how high?', I think Lentil is rude etc"
I think if the Boss has a problem with my attitude, then fine, sort it out. But to go complaining about me loudly in a public area to other employees where they could be overheard is Just Not Cricket.

Am I within my rights to complain to HR about The Boss? I think I am. My boss think I should just apologise. Which I am happy to do, because obviously something I did upset him. But I do not think what the Boss did was appropriate.

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ImperialBlether · 19/08/2015 15:32

I'm confused. Which boss is which? Were you rude?

IAmALentilWeaver · 19/08/2015 16:34

There's only one Boss. He is The Boss of all the middle managers

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CinderellaRockefeller · 19/08/2015 19:39

I'm not sure how much hr would really care tbh. What do you want them to do?

Also, were you rude?

IAmALentilWeaver · 19/08/2015 21:21

i wasn't rude

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Gooseberrycrumble2 · 19/08/2015 21:24

I would talk to HR just to register things but not make a big issue

IAmALentilWeaver · 19/08/2015 21:30

all i want really is for him to call me in for a chat and basically have us both say sorry. me for "being rude" and him for slagging me off.
he knows i overheard him.

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confusedandemployed · 19/08/2015 21:36

Hmm well I am a bit confrontational but I would make a point of saying to TopBoss that "I heard you mentioning to x and y that you weren't very happy with my work. I'm sorry about that; how would you like me to change what I do?"

That way you don't drop anyone in it, you tackle the problem head on and you get them to focus on behaviours not actions.

Oh. And sod HR. And I speak as an HR professional who is a bit drunk

confusedandemployed · 19/08/2015 21:37

Sorry meant behaviours not personalities

Katie2001 · 19/08/2015 21:38

As confusedandemployed said, I'd be inclined to ask for a meeting with Top Boss rather than waiting for him to call you in.

MsVestibule · 19/08/2015 21:43

Definitely not an HR issue at this point! I would just speak to him and, as confused has said, ask him what went wrong.

Why do you think HR is the most appropriate course of action? Are they normally involved in day to day issues like this in your place of work?

Murfles · 19/08/2015 22:04

What did you say to him?

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