AIBU to not let 14 yo dd to go to an event in London without an adult?

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Because she certainly thinks I am

Her plan is that I escort her and a friend to the venue (excel) and then go off and do the touristy thing before meeting them after the event

Which doesn't sound like an unreasonable thing to do -except we live a long way from London, she has never been to London and therefore has no idea of the scale of the place and the logistics -apparently 'you can just hop on a tube' and get anywhere really quickly having been a frequent visitor to London I know this isn't the case

She does go to our nearest city with her friends but if they get stuck one of the parents can be there in 20 minutes -none of the group have helicopter parents, they get the train or bus there and back but they do have a safety net if they lost their purse, got mugged etc

AIBU and massively over protective -or just sensible?

Dodo emergency money and instructions for a daytime event at 16 years old?! A bit OTT.

Surely you can just say "I will meet you at X place at Y time- do not move from X place unless you hear from me telling you otherwise" so if you get stuck on a tube or whatever and can't use your phone to contact them- you know they will be there? Are they sensible enough to do this- if yes; let them go. If no- then I wouldn't.

There's lots of restaurants etc at Excel. There's also a central are a between the large halls, if I remember correctly. The car parks are massive, and some are a few minutes walk away, so they're not a good,place to meet.

Excel is on the DLR, not the tube. There is a pub right by the station that does food and has comfy sofas. I think it's called the fox. Lots of places for coffee inside too - you can get to them without having a ticket to the event itself.

Instructions and emergency money are good for anyone of any age.

I'm over 50, and I like having a phone and emergency money (aka credit card) when I'm out and about!

OP- has your dd got an older friend - possibly someone's big brother or sister - who might like to go with them? I am very lucky that my 14 year old has older friends so if he wants to go to stuff like this I don't have to go!

I'm 24 and I keep £20 on me in my bra in case i'm mugged- so I can get home no matter what!

No older friends/cousins etc

I think I'll talk it through with her friend's mum and she what she thinks -my gut reaction of 'no' was obviously too harsh

i thought that YANBU from the title, where I was picturing your DD wanting to take the train to and from London on her own and navigate around for the actual event herself.

But YABU (if you can afford it and don't have extra factors in your life that would make it very hard rather than just a faff to go) to object to the with-a-friend, escorted door-to-door trip descrubed in the OP.

Drop her off then go shopping at Westfiekd Stratford or to the Olympic Park. She'll be fine at Excel. Just tell her to stay there until you collect her or she could get the dlr and meet you somewhere.

You can walk into the centre with them and then choose one of the coffee shops and say meet there. It's when you get to the actual event doors that you need tickets.

It's on the dlr which is overground, but depending on your mobile network, mobiles work underground.

Then there's the cable car to and from the O2.

She will be with a mate and
You are dropping her off in the actual place and meeting them there at an agreed time.

I really don't see the problem. My my dc's went as groups by themselves from around 13.

It sounds absolutely fine. Not sure what the concern is really.

there are coffee shops in and just outside Excel.when you drop her off choose one to meet in. also Excel doesn't have tube links it's on the DLR and over ground.