AIBU to be pissed off by this insensitive comment?

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My first AIBU, don't hold back.

I have an eight week old son, he's your average baby - eats a lot, cries a lot, occasional precious smile. Yesterday I had a friend and her daughter over for tea, friends baby is a couple of weeks older. Of course her baby was angelicly quiet the entire time but my baby screamed the entire afternoon whilst I desperately switched him from breast to bouncy chair to my lap in an effort to calm him down. I got quite stressed by the whole thing and with the usual sleep deprivation was pretty close to tears.

Instead of the camaraderie I expected from another new mum she said "you can tell he's going to be a spoiled mummy's boy can't you?" I had no clever retort, I just resisted the urge to cry and jiggled my screaming son a little bit harder.

AIBU to be hurt by this? I know I should probably just let it go. Is it possible that my baby was screaming because he was devastated that I'd let this troll into our house?

Yanbu. How rude. All babies are different. I have a friend who has a baby very similar age. When the babies were a couple if months old we spent the afternoon together. My dd was is a good mood and didn't cry at all, which was unusual. Hers was in a bad mood and cried loads. I assured her that my dd often cries lots too. That's how friends behave.

If she's a new baby friend I would reassess this. If she's an old friend tell her to stop being an arse.

8 weeks is the very worst age ime, you think it should be getting better after 6 weeks but in reality it's nearer 4 months. So hang in there

I'd be upset too, BUT I know Ive said some stupid stuff to baby friends due to major baby brain / sleep deprivation so maybe she didn't mean to hurt you

YANBU. A 'friend' once told me I was "making a rod for my own back" by tending to my screaming 3 week old baby. Not helpful.

Let's hope her second child never sleeps. Ever.

YANBU. She however is a hormonal cow who deserves to have triplets who never, ever, ever sleep.

She's no friend of yours. Trust me, you do not need someone like this in your life. Congratulate yourself on spotting the signs early. Cut her loose.

When I had DD1, Brothers then girlfriend came to visit.
She peered in the Moses basket and said "ooh she looks like a rat!"
Thankfully, DB didn't marry her!

She'll hit sleep regressions and teething.
Bide your time and make new friends that aren't shit.
Your baby obviously thought she was a cunt. Your baby shows remarkable powers of observation at such a young age. Hes clearly going to be genius.

Lavender!! That's awful!!

hugs

My eldest was a dream baby, no joke. Still is now at 6. The calmest, most relaxed thing ever to walk this earth. She didn't cry as a baby, you could surround her with knives and fire and even from being a titch would never have gone near them... I joke it's from the Codeine during pregnancy and then the pethidine and oxygen starvation at birth which killed off the "loud" cells in her brain.

I say this because my second born, from the moment I went into labour has been loud, for the first 8 months of her life, she screamed. Constantly. Day and night. Then she started walking and talking stopped, and the shouting and drawing over herself/everything started...

So what's the moral? Babies are weird beings who do what they want regardless of parenting. There were no differences between my two in how they were raised, and yet they are chalk and cheese.

So ignore your "friend" and her bullshit. You don't need that. Your baby will stop crying, and will start sleeping.

If you ARE concerned though about the screaming, look at milk allergy. When we got Pig's diagnosed she stopped the screaming (it took a lot of tests, because her symptoms were ambiguous)..

What a nasty comment. I've been very lucky to make friends with a few other mums I meet on maternity leave But I meet more people who just happen to have a baby the same time as me. A a handful of no very kind competitive parents.

Someone compared it to freshers week. On maternity leave you can meet lots of people at the same life phase as you, you won't want to be friends with them all!

LTBitch
Love Fenella's 'what a strange thing to say to me'. Puts the onus back on her. I'm stealing that one!

What a bitch! I'd disregard any future comments from this cow, she is clearly missing a few too many brain cells.

Silly thing to say.

Is it possible she was joking and meant it ironically?

Otherwise she is spectacularly insensitive and also in for a shock when her dd encounters the inevitable problems that all children go through.

I think she really meant it, but I dont think she thought it through before she opened her mouth either. It probably came across a lot ruder than she intended - I think she's thoughtless but not spiteful. Lavender I can't believe what your brothers ex said! And the white noise app has been my friend many an evening

I always wonder when somebody makes a comment like that if they planned it. Thought through a few put downs become they come out. She's just nasty.

YANBU that was a very unnecessary comment your guest made. I have had two boys who were both screamers. It can be very difficult when you are in the company of really calm babies. I used to get a bit flustered too. It will get better OP. Although I remembered every negative comment too and usually held it against that person too.