Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

aibu to ask for one of your biggest moans

86 replies

spritefairy · 17/08/2015 14:26

Doesn't matter if you are being unreasonable or reasonable..just have a good moan.

Mine is why must women wear perfume so strong out in public you can literally taste it. Even in the streets

OP posts:
bogspavin · 17/08/2015 16:25

Visitors

Petridish · 17/08/2015 16:27

My neighbour "mending" three knackered, 20 year old Volvos in his garden at four in the fucking morning.

User543212345 · 17/08/2015 16:30

People who think mental illness is the same as being a bit bored/low. If one more person thinks that suggesting the answer to my serious MH problem is to get a dog/have a child/have a nice hot bath/eat healthily/do exercise/go for a lovely walk/have a massage/find a hobby I will have to kill them to death.

I'm a bright, capable person (normally). Do they not think that some of this stuff may have occurred to both me and my doctors and it's not the fucking answer. Moreover with the child/dog thing - I can barely look after myself. Taking responsibility for another living being is beyond negligent.

flightywoman · 17/08/2015 16:34

One of mine is people telling stories about other people I don't know but relating it as if I am close bosom buddies with them - so no explanation of who they are.

I don't know who they are, and I don't fucking care.

messystressy · 17/08/2015 17:04

Oh my god, the thing about taking things from kids and saying "is it mine?". The nursery worker does it to my 3 y o all the time, referring to her cuddly toy. The worker will pick it up, give it a hug and say she is going to take it home. My DDs eyes fill with tears. Then it happens the next day...funny joke. :(

CigarsofthePharoahs · 17/08/2015 17:19

Also in supermarkets -
People who randomly take a step backwards without looking behind them. Quite often just as I'm going past with my trolley. Apparently it's my fault if they step into my trolley!

My mum tells random anecdotes, gets a little forgetful in the middle and looks at me to fill in the gap. I always have to reply - I don't know, I wasn't there!

My four year old. Keeps lashing out for what seems like no reason at all to me. He then whines like crazy when I tell him off. Apparently I'm the unreasonable one for giving him a time out for kicking his little brother. I have his noise and his brother who is either crying because he's been hit or because his brother is nowhere to be seen.
My head is going to implode.

FenellaFellorick · 17/08/2015 17:20

People who say they can't when they mean they don't want to.

Yes mother, I am looking at you. Grin

BillyDaveysDaughter · 17/08/2015 17:42

The fucking God awful American import, the term "Can I get..."

"Can I get a skinny latte?"
"Can I get a burger and fries?"
"Hi, can I just get a mango bastard smoothie?"

No, you can't GET anything you fucking fool because you don't work here. You are not in New York. You can HAVE a latte and the barista will GET it for you.

Grips my shit. Speak normally, swear if you must but if I hear CAN I GET one more time someone is getting it in the teeth with a cricket bat.

yazz21 · 17/08/2015 17:47

Mine is plate scraping. I seem to be the only one in the house capable of scraping any uneaten food, off my plate into the bin, before putting it on the side. It really pisses me off, because you have to walk past the bloody bin to get to the side!

TobleroneBoo · 17/08/2015 17:48

My moan is now the mum who took her three kids into the quiet coach on the train, everybody moved seats to accommodate them and they have been shouting ever since. On purpose too as they keep saying " we shouldn't be in the quiet zone, the man opposite is getting annoyed" but then carry on screeching. mum has said not one word just chatted to her mate ConfusedConfused

IJustLostTheGame · 17/08/2015 17:54

My dh takes the sieve plug thing out of the sink before emptying pans etc. So I have to grub about in cold minging water and unblock it.
He needs murdering

WicksEnd · 17/08/2015 18:02

People who wait at the queue and only get their money/travel pass out of their jeans/handbag when they get on the bus.

People who think the best place to have a group conversation is at the bottom/top of escalators, stairs or shop doorways.

People who do not get the concept of personal space. I do not need to see what you ate for lunch.

LOUD people. FFS I don't want to hear your conversation over the top of everyone else's when I'm eating out! STFU!

MamaLazarou · 17/08/2015 18:03

People who eat with their mouth open. I hate, hate, HATE it.

simplesusan · 17/08/2015 18:07

Flightywoman I get that too. When I say I don't know that person they often then go on to describe the person , you know lives on x lane, married to Y err no I still don't know who you are talking about!

frangipani13 · 17/08/2015 18:07

Unsolicited advice about having a baby from all and sundry.
My MIL asking loudly "how's your bladder" at a posh afternoon tea
People on mumsnet using the word "entitled". I don't think I've ever heard this in RL
My dh not indicating
People wearing shoes in my house
In laws bringing their scabby dog to my house and insisting it sleep in their room.
Being offered cake as a hilarious joke by my family even though I have gestational diabetes. Fuckers
My cock of STBX boss complaining how tough the last few months have been on him. I was made redundant. By him.

frangipani13 · 17/08/2015 18:08

Shit sorry OP. You asked for one!

Fatmomma99 · 17/08/2015 18:10

I was going to say people who stop suddenly for no reason, people who wait until they're asked for money at the supermarket before they start to look for their purse/wallet, but both of those have been said.

So I'll go with people who are on (almost in) their phones and ignoring their children. It always upsets me to see it.

Bing0wings · 17/08/2015 18:21

Drivers who don't indicate when changing lanes or turning left or right at roundabout.

Birdsgottafly · 17/08/2015 18:22

""People who think the best place to have a group conversation is at the bottom/top of escalators""

I'm tolerant, but exactly were the fuck do they think you can go when your on a moving set of stairs. I would love to actually shove people out of the way whilst shouting for them to give an explanation as to why they thought they were reasonable, plonking themselves in the way.

WandaFuca · 17/08/2015 19:18

Being kept waiting for appointments. I suffer from anxiety, so getting out of the house on time to get to appointments on time is stressful, but I manage it. But most times I'm kept waiting. I really don't mind being kept waiting in a health situation, because very often there was someone earlier than me that really needed that extra time. But I wish I could be told there was a delay and for roughly how long - I can cope with that by listening to things on my iPod; it's the uncertainty as to whether I can safely listen to my iPod for a while, or whether I should switch it off in order to hear my name being called out that racks up my stress. Just a bit of info would help me cope with my anxiety.

YUDOTHIS · 17/08/2015 19:40

Loud eaters.
people who eat with their mouths open.
people who eat fries and pizza with a fork. its fingerfood ffs. i can forgive fries as they leave a residue but ffs PIZZA?
people who eat ridiculously slow, staring at their food before eating it (yes i know, its a symptom of an eating disorder before you round on me, i know! it still pisses me off but i wouldn't dream of saying anything!)
have you noticed I have an issue with public eating yet
People who round on smokers for everything. we can't smoke indoors we can't smoke in bus stops we can't smoke in any enclosed space and the majority of us imo and ime are very considerate in terms of hospital doorways and plonking ourselves next to a non smoker yet i see a thousand threads a day about how annoying we are, i get looks of disdain and disgust from passerby when lighting up (passerby that are nowhere near) just piss off will you?!?!
also, I look young, but im actually in my early twenties with two children so if im out alone once in a blue moon i get people coming up to me and saying oh thats not good for you or you shouldn't be smoking at your age. i just go "what? at 21? really? I'd have never guessed. Reckon I'll shove my ability to think for myself up my arse because some randomer thinks he knows me better than well, me!"...
Its so fucking annoying. smoking is bad, smoking effects every part of your body pretty much, and none of those effects are positive and i've got a massive increase in risk of terrible diseases I know this but its my choice and my problem, Piss off!!!

googoodolly · 17/08/2015 19:46

People who change plans and don't bother ringing! Or people DP who are going to be late home from work and don't bother to ring and tell me! Can you tell this happened earlier and I'm still annoyed?! Grrr. It takes seconds to pick up a phone and let me know, it's not rocket science!

GhettoFabulous · 17/08/2015 20:02

Whistling. No, it's not a cheery wee ditty, you're making my ears bleed. Fucking shut up.

TheMotherOfHellbeasts · 17/08/2015 20:09

People who get all sniffy and sneery about my taste in books, the "oh, well I like to challenge myself when I read" whilst glaring balefully (or virtually) at my beloved tweeny Twilight saga books. I am always bemused fucking annoyed as to why anybody is that interested in other peoples lives as to pass judgement on their interests.

googoodolly · 17/08/2015 20:10

Oh, and I second plate-scraping. And people who leave food on plates and put said plates in the sink. So I either have to scrape off their manky food myself, or worse, they've put water in to let things "soak" and you get mushy food water. Eurgh.