Friend is having party at mine

[Givemetheginnow]

My close friend wants to have her bday drinks at mine as it is easier for people to get to. I wasn't actually asked outright but this kept being suggested and eventually I just agreed. About ten friends will be there, most of whom are mutual but some who I've never met

I feel like I might be expected to help chip in for alcohol and snacks? She is lovely and not a taker at all, I don't know how to be polite but firm back though. What can I say? I'm excited but reallyyyyyy don't want to host...

Absolutely what whois said. It's what I came in to say. You are providing the location, nothing else.
Is there likely to be significant clean up? Will it get messy (think loos, crisps in the carpet) or are these generally responsible adults we're talking?
I'd be hiding stuff I dont want eaten /drunk/broken/ looked at. Especially if there will be people who are total strangers to you.
And notes on doors that you want off limits?

Can you not all meet in a bar or pub? That way it's on neutral ground, you are not hosting & you can leave whenever you like instead of waiting for the last guest to leave. It's a win win situation for you both but if you have already agreed then you need to take action quite quickly if the party is tomorrow.

Text 'are you all ready on the food and alcohol front? Looking forward to helping you set everything up when you arrive'

You must be very fond of her.

No way would I do that for a friend.

You really need to set boundaries in place, I for one would never volunteer to have a party at mine for anyone if it involved me doing any hostessing in anyway shape or form, same goes with clearing up the next day, it seems to me like she's taking the piss op.

I would and have held parties at my house for friends. It's very much give and take as they would also help me out.

Or ask what sort of food is she doing. Has she got serving players as you don't have much in the way of that.

Will she bringing table clothes, napkins and paper plates. That way there's less washing up.

Remind her too to bring plenty of paper plates and plastic cups so that at the end of the night she can throw them into a bin bag and won't have to worry about setting to and doing all the washing up and you won't have to spend the night on the edge of your seat that stuff will be broken that she'll then have to get replacements for…

Seeing as she PA guilt tripped you into hosting, don't feel bad about being PA to protect your stuff!!

Is she expecting you to have cleaned, stocked up on loo roll etc before the party? (just thinking of my house - I couldn't turn it around to be stranger/party proof in 48 hours - so would be really stressed by something like this even though I technically have space).

And potentially be entertaining strangers in my house?

That'll be shining bright.

OP how old are you? Do you have kids?

I feel like I might be expected to help chip in for alcohol and snacks?

I'm late to the thread but why do you feel this?

I'm sure she's lovely as you say but she has put you on the spot at very short notice.

You should tell her in no uncertain terms that the pompous git is NOT invited, give a reason if need be.

Her party and her costs for drinks etc...

I personally think even though she seems lovely you've been backed into a corner on this with no way to back out.

owlina - 'cat's having a friend round' love it.