..to ask Partner to run after work so I get inone lay in this week??

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I work in a school so am off for the 6 wk holiday with my boys. My children sleep in until 8.30am but every morning this week my partner gets up at 6.30 to run before work. He would normally run after work. Am I being unreasonable to ask him to do it after work for one day so I can lay in until the boys get up?? I normally juggle work, the house and children so a break is welcome (i do realsie I am lucky working in a school). So AIBU?

Yanbu at all. Earplugs?

Yanbu to ask nicely or ask him to make less noise, it makes no sense for you both to be up unnecessarily.
It would be unreasonable to demand and strop about it.

I'm currently not working until September and my husband gets up at 6am. He gets up, goes downstairs taking his clothes with him and tries not to make too much noise. We have a good relationship and tease each other about the unfairness. He leaves the house at just gone 8 and I get him to make me tea before he goes

I do the same for him when the situation has been reversed.

That's exactly it. I would definitely do the same for him so found it disconcerting that he was do furious at my suggestion. Plus I should add he has his own place and doesn't normally live at mine, its only this week so even more reason to compromise I thought.

YANBU - there is no real reason (other than preference) for going for a morning run every day, so one day after work is perfectly doable. I'm in the same boat - once I wake up I find it very hard to get back to sleep, and being woken before you have to get up breeds an immense of resentment. I've found earplugs and an eye mask really helps - and so does a considerate husband . It's all about give and take in a marriage.

It's only for a week , does it really matter that you've been awake from 6.30 for 4 days when you've had 4 weeks off and another 3 to go?

Sorry but I think you're being a bit precious about this.

I get why the hypocrisy and self-centredness have got you so cross. I do think a better solution would be for him to learn to creep out quietly and you to sleep with earplugs or something. Because that way you would get 5 days of lie-ins!

I used to be unable to get back to sleep too, but after years of sleep deprivation and really working at my lie-ins :) I've finally cracked it. Sadly it's rubbish for me getting stuff done though.

I would dearly love a lie in but, like you OP, once I'm awake that's it. Though I waken up for different reasons. He sounds like a selfish child, to get angry over a simple request.

I have to say, some of the comments slating you, appear to have a vibe of jealously about them.

Stay I don't agree with the OP, I'm not jealous as I'm also off for the summer from school.

I think she's being very precious over 4 mornings of being woken at 6.30, presumably after a decent night's sleep too.

I have to say, some of the comments slating you, appear to have a vibe of jealously about them

I have disagreed with he OP, but I am certainly not jealous!

Ahh I see. He's come to stay with you for a week and he's furious at your suggestion?

Yes, I would expect a compromise and a regular conversation like:

Patch "is it possible for you to do one evening run this week?"
Other "why?"
Patch "because you're waking me up when the kids don't wake up until 8.30"
Other "sorry didnt reaIize. I prefer morning running and wanted more time with you all in the evenings this week"
Patch "Bless, could you make less noise and get ready in the lounge?"
Other "yes, lets give that a try"

Then if you were me I would say bring me tea before you go, my husband would tell me where to go but do it anyway if he wasnt running late.

I can't see why it's being "hypocritical" that he wanted to give one run a miss, OP - daily runs can get tiring.
And it makes complete sense to want more of a gap between the midweek runs and the long Saturday run. Far easier to do a decent distance if you haven't run for 24 hours, rather than just since the previous evening.

I'm not jealous of the OP. I just feel a bit sorry for the guy who's trying to fit in his training around full time work, and getting told off by someone who doesn't even have to get out of bed while he's doing it!

YABU OP. Controlling, much? Its one week! Get things in perspective.

That terribly anti-social behaviour known as keeping fit and healthy vis a vis wanting to lie in bed undisturbed and dictate someone's life.

I know who I'm with on this one. Poor guy.

troll - excellent suggestion, and the way that most adults in a caring relationship would approach things.

Just tell him if he wants an early morning run he gets out of bed without waking you......or he can fuck off back home

and now the OP is controlling. Lol

Have we had 'entitled', 'precious' and 'he'll look elsewhere' as well yet? We're almost at a full house

I get up much earlier than DH on the days I work. I get up very quietly and get dressed in the bathroom, tiptoe downstairs, have breakfast and leave the house.

DH gets up very early on one of the days I don't work - he does the same.

It is called good manners and consideration.

DH could sleep through an air raid but I am a light sleeper and find it difficult to get back to sleep once woken. I often wake when he gets up early, but he is doing his best so I don't complain.

I think YANBU and your DH is being a bit mean.

YANBU.

It would be different if it was 3 days, but every single day would drive me slightly nuts as I'm another who can't get back to sleep if I'm woken up early.

Yes that's right it is good to have a break between runs - hence why most people don't plan to go running 5 mornings in a row - and it would be nice to let your DP know in advance if you plan not to go out.

I do parkrun at the weekend and as it's up a bit earlier than we would normally get up I do my best to be considerate by getting my clothes out the night before, bringing DH a cup of tea etc. etc.

Incidentally I had parental leave for a few weeks, now over and DH brought me a cup of tea in the mornings when he was getting up for work.

So it's just the one week then. Catch up on your napping in the other 5 weeks you have off.

It's only for a week and yes it is precious to be moaning about being disturbed at 6.30 for 4 mornings only.

More 'precious' (full house!) and petty to refuse to get ready for your run elsewhere in the house, esp. when you know that your partner has problems getting back to sleep.

YaBVU, very unreasonable, unless I've got the wrong end of the stick.

He gets up at 6.30 to run; you get to lay in every day until 8.30 which is when your children wake up, regardless of whether he goes for a run or not? How lovely for you.

I said precious at 10.02 am.

Oh well, we're all entitled to get uptight about whatever we like.

This isn't one I'd be annoyed about.

So we've already had the perennial MN favourite of precious?! Damn, missed that one

Anyone want to suggest that he'll probably look elsewhere for someone less precious/entitled/princessey? Or perhaps he's already met someone and he's out running with her?

Perhaps OP wants her DP to stay in bed longer so they can both indulge in activities that are more collectively enjoyable than a solo run.