AIBU?
To think this isn't normal lunch behaviour?!
1AngelicFruitCake · 13/08/2015 20:11
Good friend of mine said she'd come over to see me yesterday. She said she'd come for lunch so I asked if she had any preferences about what I'd make. She texted back to say no, she'd bring lunch as she needed to use lots of things up.
Imagine my surprise when she turned up with nothing obvious with her. I suggested after a while we eat lunch and she proceeds to open her handbag to get out a squashed chicken sandwich she'd made for herself and proceeded to eat! 
Luckily I had a sandwich I'd made for later (am pregnant and constantly hungry!) so I didn't have to meekly ask if she'd made one for me! Did I misread the lunch signs? Is this normal?
Floggingmolly · 13/08/2015 20:39
Why would anyone assume she meant she'd be bringing her own? 
That is really not a normal thing to do, it's no different to the op suddenly deciding it was lunchtime and preparing a sandwich for herself only; leaving her friend looking on.
Or getting into rounds in a pub, but only buying a drink for yourself when it's your turn. Only the very socially incompetent do this...
1AngelicFruitCake · 13/08/2015 20:41
Thanks everyone! The worse thing is that she had texted the day after the first text to say she'd get some fancy biscuits and I said 'no, I'll get those as you're already getting everything else!!' Luckily for me I bought the biscuits otherwise I'd have been watching her eating her own biscuits that she brought for herself
CrohnicallyAspie · 13/08/2015 20:51
Yes I'm very socially incompetent. But I can't see what is wrong with only bringing your own lunch provided you say that is what is going to happen. The friend's only mistake IMO is not saying specifically 'I'll bring my own'. I presume she wrote the text in one internal voice and the OP read it in a different voice, so the friend thought she was clear but she wasn't.
I had a similar exchange earlier, I arranged to pick a friend up, they said 'that's fine if you don't mind, or did you want me to drive?' I replied that I would because of the car seat, they said 'I know, I meant did you want to meet me there?'
So they wrote 'that's fine if you don't mind (picking me up)...'
I read 'that's fine if you don't mind, or did you want me to drive (us all)'
BestZebbie · 13/08/2015 21:02
I'd assume she was going to make her own lunch with her dubious leftovers and was telling you that so you didn't need to cook and could sort yourself something quick/purely to your own taste/using your own slightly dubious leftovers too (as turned out to be the case). However, I am used to eg: a friend comes over straight from work and brings takeaway just for themselves so as not to muck up preplanned family dinner arrangements with a suprise extra adult, etc - if you are used to the host catering that puts a slightly different shine on it.
I can see how you read it the way you did.
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