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To ask how old were you dc when you first went out out?

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Ahardmanisgoodtofind · 13/08/2015 09:05

Annual night out is coming up and I've been called precious for not being sure if I'm going or not. I'll try and keep this short.
I go out (drinks,club/dancing)max 3 times a year. This is the only time this group of friends can get together, I've been organising for years and some have to book it off work a year in advance,we be local. Dd is ebf and will be nearly 6weeks old. I haven't bounced back. Dp will look after dcs. And will have to give formula to the baby, im worried if that will affect latch and how long will i be unable to feed for after drinking.
So how old were your babies/dc when you first went out? Do I need to get a grip and just Go?
failed at keeping it short

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iwantgin · 13/08/2015 10:07

I was 30 six weeks after having DS.

Had a fab nigh out with my friends, but had to go home at 1am due to sore,leaking breasts. Ds' father stayed home with DS.

I was NOT going to miss celebrating my 30th!

p.s. Pumped and dumped. Had expressed beforehand so as to have alcohol free milk available for him.

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Ahardmanisgoodtofind · 13/08/2015 10:09

I don't actually know if she'll take a bottle mini good point.

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ohidoliketobe · 13/08/2015 10:15

I went to a gig when DS was 3 weeks old (DH home alone! !) . I was mixed feeding. It was 10 minutes from home and I was picked up early! We went to a BBQ at a friends house when DS was 6 weeks old, my parents stayed over.

MrsAukerman · 13/08/2015 10:16

I've been trying to find a good link for you about alcohol and breastfeeding.
Basically your milk alcohol level= blood level.
Drink drive limit= milk as alcoholic as orange juice.
No need to pump and dump, just wait for your blood / milk to become less alcoholic.

MrsAukerman · 13/08/2015 10:20

kellymom.com/bf/can-i-breastfeed/lifestyle/alcohol/

VenusVanDamme · 13/08/2015 10:23

DS was 6 or 7 weeks when we went to a show and drinks after, he stayed with his DGM.

He was about 3 weeks and out of scbu fora week when I left him with DGM for a few hours to get my roots done! That was meant to be my pampering before I had him, he had other ideas!

VenusVanDamme · 13/08/2015 10:23

Sorry that should have been he stayed overnight with DGM.

Alibabsandthe40Musketeers · 13/08/2015 10:25

If it was that close I would go but keep coming back to feed.

I first left DS1 when he was 4 months - DH and I went out to see a film and left him with my parents, then we went back so I could feed him, then we went out for dinner.
DS2 I have no idea, he fed all the time and never slept so going out wasn't on the cards.

Tbh most of our socialising is with friends who also have kids and we go to each other's houses or weddings as a whole family. Have many happy memories of sitting drinking champagne while feeding Grin

I would be so cross and upset at friends calling me pathetic for being unsure about a night out when my baby was only a couple of months old, none of mine would though because they are nice people.

PosterEh · 13/08/2015 10:31

Could you go and not drink? If it's local you could then go home if baby not taking bottle/you get engorged etc.
I could probably have managed to get out with dd at that age but ds was a different kettle of fish entirely.

Yokohamajojo · 13/08/2015 10:35

I went out when DS was 6 weeks, for a friends leaving the country do and I didnt' enjoy it tbh, my breasts ached and had to go to the toilet to express. DS and DH were fine though. If you are local you don't have to go for hours and hours so I would give it a go

Onecurrantbun · 13/08/2015 10:41

After DD1 I went out when she was 8 weeks old, only for a couple of hours and I joined them at the club (11pm ish, once baby was settled) and didn't drink. I was bfing and couldn't be arsed to express so DH text me when she woke for a feed and I was home in 10 mins.

With DD2, I have only been on one night out - she was 18 months old a d it was a hen do with overnight stay. I'm pregnant again so didn't drink.

I was 23 when I had DD1 and 25 withDD2 AND it was amazing in those two years how our friends gravitated away from regular boozy nights out once we started to buy houses, get careers etc., although we are still the only ones with kids. Now we have such banging social occasions as trips to the theatre and crumpets and cocktails evenings.

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Ahardmanisgoodtofind · 13/08/2015 10:44

Thank you for the link Mrs!!
I could go and not drink but I'd like to have the option of having a couple if I fancy (No alcohol for nearly a year, and I really fancy a gin or two Grin)
It's just the way my friend talks Alibaba she didn't mean any offence Smile

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Moopsboopsmum · 13/08/2015 10:45

DS was 11 months and I had nearly stopped BF'ing. Didn't leave him all night until he was 12 months and then only once with my mum and then again once with my sister when he was 3.5 yrs. I don't feel comfortable leaving him and no one should pressure you if you don't want to.

Mrscog · 13/08/2015 10:46

DS was 13 months, I didn't want to leave him for very long before that, we struggled to get BF established and it was very precious to me. I left him for 2-3 hours in the day once he was on solids, but I just had no desire for a night out. I've got DS2 now and he's 16 weeks and I can't imagine leaving him for a while yet.

I'm not pathetic, or precious, or a better parent than someone who leaves babies earlier, but I just do what feels right for me. Your friends sound quite unpleasant to be honest, I'd have been a wreck leaving either of mine at 6 weeks.

funkybuddah · 13/08/2015 10:47

Dc1 about 2 weeks, dc2 8 days old to a pre arranged works Christmas dinner.

Properly out on the tiles until early hours probaby 2 months

LittleMiss77 · 13/08/2015 10:51

DS is 4 weeks old and me and DP are off out tomorrow without him to celebrate my birthday

DS is off to spend some time with Grandma

designedbynature · 13/08/2015 11:22

Out out was a few months. I think I went out for a few drinks for maybe two hours at about 8-9 weeks.

If I had tried to go "out out" at six weeks I would have likely just slept.

I think that your friends are being really mean here, if I had a friend in a similar position I wouldn't pile any pressure. If you don't go out does this mean that they won't?

designedbynature · 13/08/2015 11:23

and overnight was 10 months, left with DH because I had to go to my friends Dad's funeral.

ShipShapeAhoy · 13/08/2015 11:26

Precious wasn't the word used, I think "pathetic"was one and worry wart was the other. Precious sounds less offensive

Haha OK. Whenever I read it I think of Enid Blyton. I want to hear someone I know say it now.

With drinking and breastfeeding, it'll be fine. I think the real danger is that you could get drunk and fall asleep with the baby in a dangerous position. As long as you don't do that and your partner is sober I don't think there's anything to worry about.

Getyercoat · 13/08/2015 11:40

6 weeks. EBF, went to a match and left expressed milk with my mum.
Out, out, about 5 months, had three bottles of beer and fell in the door drunk.

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Ahardmanisgoodtofind · 13/08/2015 11:47

At least one person won't go if I don't go,everyone knows everyone to some degree but im the One everyone knows most iykwim.
Dp will be sober, and im not planning on getting hammered-after not drinking for so long I know I'll have to watch my self. And I get the worst hangovers, not risking that!!I might not drink at all yet,but it's always nice to have that option

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littlejohnnydory · 13/08/2015 11:52

DC1 - 8 months
DC2 - 8 months
DC3 - 15 months
DC4 - nine months and only just left her with dh for a couple of hours during the day.

At six weeks you are still establishing bf. I don't see how it's possible to leave them at that age and I certainly wouldn't even consider it. I wouldn't want to.

littlejohnnydory · 13/08/2015 11:54

Oh, not been out on the tiles since before dc1, who is coming up 8!! I'm talking a couple of hours.

mrsdavidbowie · 13/08/2015 11:59

Six weeks...out for dinner and drinks.
Was bliss.

Rox19 · 13/08/2015 12:00

If you're in some kind of routine, feed baby and go for max 2hr.
Tbh you must be shattered anywa. Often they have growth spirt and cluster feeding at 6wk old
Your friends will understand. Just say hi, dinner, quick dance and go early. Will be different once baby is 5mo at your next meet up.
Be kind to yourself and the baby.

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