To be annoyed with MIL

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My DH has been away with friends for a few weekends over the past few years and is regularly away on business meetings Etc. When he is away my MIL leaves to me to look after the kids. Which I am happy with. I don't new her interfering which she tends to do id she comes round.
Last year I went to visit a friend who had moved away and DH looked after my 2 DD. Seems very simple except when I phone to say hello (check on them)they where out with my MIL who knew I was away and arranged to help DH with the girls and no one mentioned it to me. I wasn't best pleased at the time as I had spoken to the girls and they were excited to be having a Daddy weekend as they called it. I was away and didn't make to much of a fuss but was a bit annoyed.
Now I have been invited to go away on a girly weekend (never do a girls holiday so I was excited). I was asking about the place we may be going an MIL overheard an said if your going away then we (MIL and FIL) will take the girls to on a little holiday while your away.
firstly she know I don't want her the girls away I prefer them to be with a parent they are are 3 and 7 and although they will probably be fine her parenting is very different to mine and I would worry. Were as I trust DH to look after them in the same way we do while I am there so wouldn't worry as much )
I wonder if she thinks that her son isn't able to look after them (he is a really good dad but not a great cook but I'm sure noodles and McDonald's for a weekend won't kill them).
I am now thinking maybe I shouldn't go because I will get really stressed.
AIBU to think she is interfering as should just let my DH look after his DD?

Yanbu, I totally understand where you are coming from, when you are away you want them looked after in the same way they normally are at home as you will worry less and it's also nice for them to have time with dad. However, I don't see the problem as you said your DH will say 'no' to MIL taking them away? So is that not problem solved?

AIBU to think your MIL is being used? Okay for childcare when it suits you but incompetent when it doesn't? Could she be trying to be helpful? Anyway as your DH is saying "no" problem is solved. All he needs to say is that he was looking forward to having some time on his own with DD.

So you dh isn't happy with them going either?

Then what's the issue?

You don't want her to help when you have them on your own, dh is having them on his own, she offers when he has them as it's quite clear you don't want to let her have them apart from when you are at work.

I still can't see what she has some wrong

Quite honestly I don't get why she is allowed to look after them while you work, but not for a weekend. You either trust her with your kids or not. Plenty could happen while she has them, when you are at work.

I originally posted before I spoke to DH he was there when she said she would take them away.
So yes we are all sorted.
Thankfully my DH said they couldn't go before I even said I didn't want them to so I feel less like it's just me being unreasonable amid we both agree
I get that I get a lot of support but there has to be boundaries and because someone helps me out doesn't mean I have to agree to everything they want.
Thanks for all your opinions it help me stop worrying about it