Is it precocious of her?

[Laindons]

Posted this in Chat but didn't get much of a response.

My friend gave birth Saturday (no one knew she was in labour), and Monday evening she released a video of herself on facebook, holing her baby (looking rather fab for someone who's just given birth), announcing the date, time and full name of the child. She only had close friends and family on Facebook so it wasn't really a huge share, and phone called anyone who didn't have access to FB.

Friends of mine who I've told think she's very unreasonable, precocious and self absorbed for doing this. I must admit, it did come across as very celebish but it was beautiful and different to the pictures you just usually get popping up on your feed.

What do you think? I rather like the idea

[StillStayingClassySanDiego]

Why ask again if chat didn't please you with the responses?

[Heels99]

The op and her friends are the twats slagging off a birth announcement

[YUDOTHIS]

I agree heels99.

[TwinkieTwinkle]

OP, It is obviously not just your friend who has issues with this video, you do as well. What ever happened to just being happy for people? Being overjoyed for your friend that her beautiful baby is here, without any problems? And what is wrong with her taking a couple of days with her DH to enjoy their baby together, before the influx of calls, texts, visitors etc?

[MyDoItMyself]

Should she have uploaded a picture of her looking like shit and talking about her stitches or something?! This is such a non-issue and you "your friends" are being really mean about it. Are you actually jealous of someone who's supposed to be your friend just because they put some make up on?!

[CaptainHolt]

I can't imagine why anyone would give any fucks - unless I've totally missed something. Woman has baby and then puts birth announcement on FB? Is that it? Is it too much or not enough?

[MadrigalElectromotive]

Who cares? Your friend had a baby and is happy about it. Send her a card and move on.

Most people get a bit silly about their pfb, and many seem to come out the other side, but that doesn't mean that you should be unpleasant to or about her in the meantime.

[TwinkieTwinkle]

CaptainHolt She put on makeup. I mean, it's awful. A women taking five minutes to make herself look a bit nicer (and probably feel a bit better) after childbirth. Don't you know you should only upload photos that show you right afterwards, exhausted, sweating, teary, red faced etc?

[hackmum]

Seems quite a nice thing to do to me - a way of sharing the baby news with close friends and family.

[LavenderLeigh]

Can you explain what the issue is?
And why there seems to be an expectation she should have told the world when she went into labour? It is nobody's business.
Why carp about how and when she makes the announcement?

[TantrumsAndBalloons]

Oh I get it now.

You posted a thread. Everyone said it was fine, people announce their birth how they please blah blah and you didn't like that because you and your friends had a great time saying what a "twattish" thing to do so you posted another thread hoping people would agree

[TwinkieTwinkle]

I can't seem to see the other thread. I'm assuming it goes along the same lines as this one.

[flipyoumelonfarmer]

You are being wildly unreasonable and absolutely horrid. Also bonkers.

[mochindu]

She's NBU for announcing her birth the way she wants. Maybe she wanted to have some quiet time with her newborn, then let everyone know simultaneously, rather than have in-laws comparing where they were on the info list. Then get back to her baby.

YABU though for trying to start a goady thread in AIBU because the Chat crowd didn't leap up to slag off a new mum for wearing a bit of mascara.

[SnapesCapes]

I think it sounds a lovely way to announce a new baby. If friends of mine did it I'd be thrilled their baby was safely here (and probably would post something acknowledging just how fabulous they looked; new mothers ned every confidence-boost they can get).

The saying "don't blow out others candles to try and make your own shine brighter" applies here. Leave her be and for goodness sake, if you can't say lovely things about her, you're not a friend at all.

[Theycallmemellowjello]

no one knew she was in labour .... looking rather fab for someone who's just given birth - are you suggesting it's a big conspiracy, the baby's not hers, and the video's fake like that one of the (so-called) moon landing?

precocious - is she 10 years old? In fact - are you?

[LadyLuck81]

It's lovely. Go her. Nowt wrong in wanting to

A) have quality time with baby before telling everyone about the arrival

B) wanting to look good if you're doing a video.

[firesidechat]

Precocious is definitely the wrong word.

I hate facebook with a passion, but quite honestly if she feels up to doing that then I think it's a nice way to announce the news. It's not like she's announcing the arrival of a pet hamster. A baby is big news.

[firesidechat]

My daughter looked amazing in the photo taken immediately after the birth of her second baby. It was a relatively easy birth and she was on an emotional high. Very different from the exhausted heap that she was after the marathon labour with her first. Who would begrudge her that lovely picture?

[annielouise]

I don't know what the big deal is. Were people expecting a running commentary? She might not have had time to inform everyone she was going in and after you have the baby time flies in those first few days so the first opportunity she got she updated everyone. And she then announced the date, time and name of the baby as she had decided by then. It sounds the way most people do it before the invention of FB.

I didn't inform anyone I was going in apart from my mother who no doubt told family. Then they had a phone call to say what it was (didn't want to find out beforehand). Can't remember when we announced the names.

Maybe her DH took the film/photo and put it on FB as she had other things on her mind.

Not precious, pretentious or precocious at all. Why would anyone think it - apart from being a bit jealous not having thought of it themselves as it seems a nice way to let everyone know.

[loveandsmiles]

YABU

You would hate me - I gave birth 5 days ago and have still not told some people, indeed, some people didn't even know I was pregnant!!

For those I have got round to telling - I sent a text yesterday announcing the birth - only my DH and DCs knew the exact date I was going into hospital to have ELCS.

It is our 6th DC and when we had our 5th we got so many nasty comments of too many children, too old etc, we decided we would just keep the joy to ourselves this time - why does the whole world need to know your business??!!

It is your friends baby and up to her how she announces the birth......

[MyDoItMyself]

Congratulations on your new baby, loveandsmiles

[kissmethere]

Yabu. Your jealousy is shining through and I'm sure your friend will see it too.
Modern technology and all that it's up to her how she wants to announce her birth.

[loveandsmiles]

Thank you mydo

[TheReluctantCountess]

I think that was a nice thing to do, and much less attention-seeking than posting updates as soon as labour starts.