...to think photos of DC on Facebook should be kept to an absolute minimum?

[Dioskouri]

Some of my FB friends post several photos of their DC a day. Photos of them eating/sleeping/playing/using the potty/breathing... Leaving aside the irritation of seeing yet another picture of a baby you are only vaguely connected with and really don't give a toss about, doesn't that child have some privacy rights of his or her own? How will s/he feel in 15 years time when the minutiae of her childhood has been shared with the world and his wife?

I take thousands of pictures of my DC doing all sorts of mundane things but as a general rule I share them only with people close to me. I wonder if that makes me a dinosaur.

Do what you like re your own children, YABU to dictate what others should do.

Meh. It doesn't bother me. I have albums on Facebook and every so often upload 20 or so photos into one of them for friends and family to see. A lot of the photos are my DD but some are me, DH. the cat etc.

I would much rather see photos of my friends DC on my Facebook news feed than the multitude of photos of people's breakfast/ lunch and dinner every day. I don't get that. I have this one friend who has avocado and toast for breakfast every morning - I know this because she shares a photo of her breakfast every single day. Why?

I always find it odd that anyone takes pictures of a child on a potty or with food all over their face in an album or on the internet. Wierd.

And pictures of their puddings or cocktails in a restaurant. Why? It's boring.

There's also the time hop app which then allows them to share the same photos a year or so later! Used to irritate me but now I just unfollow them if it gets too much. I've also been known to unfollow friends who insist on sharing every single one of the 100 odd holiday photos they've taken.

Doesn't bother me. We're the generation that is having to learn all this stuff. By the time our kids are old enough to care, there will be nothing to 'care' about because it will be expected and utterly the norm. I keep the photos decent for my own peace of mind, even though it probably makes no difference to anything. Other than that, whatever makes you happy.

You are confused about what respect for privacy requires. No one's right to privacy includes others not knowing what they looked like as children otherwise, forget about FB, you'd have a strong obligation to only take your DCs out in public under a sheet so that no one could see them.

These threads are done to death every week it seems. It's simple, people are going to post things about their own business that you don't like. You have options. It's hardly a surprise.

This is my facebook routine.

Update with mindless shite at least once a day
Share pointless pictures of at least 2 children a day
Share pointless picture of at least 2 animals a day
Share at least one time hop picture a day - usually of an animal or a child
Share at least one new story or rant because I am always right.

The OP would hate me, I imagine she would have the sense to delete me on FB.

I agree OP.

Also - the number of people who post all the details of their holidays. Unless you are really sure your privacy settings are locked down thoroughly it's like saying BURGLARS I AM AWAY PLEASE COME AND STEAL FROM MY HOME with flashing lights all around it. Wait until you get home and THEN post what a wonderful time you had and where you went. Your insurance will not pay out if you did post on FB and then got burgled.

But surely that would depend on you also putting your address on Facebook which, quite frankly, is a stupid thing to do?

The only reason I am vaguely uneasy about posting pics of kids on FB (which I do occasionally), is that, no matter how strictly controlled your privacy settings are, you're never just sharing with your friends and family.

You are actually sharing with your friends and family and ALL of their random FB friends (be that 20 or 400) each time one of them 'likes' it (which people invariably do).

Have I misunderstood this? If not, is there a way round it? (Other than not posting in the first place!)

Facebook gripes is on my list of things "only on MN". In real life, people don't get so het up about photos of children and their privacy on FB.

Everyone knows I am on holiday anyway, do other people go away in secret in case one of their friends is friends with a burglar who has a gap in his timetable that week?

I post pictures of my dcs because many of my family and friends live abroad and it's the easiest way for them to see pictures of the dcs. My family and friends do the same.

If it bothers you, unfriend someone that is doing that, but rather ridiculous to expect everyone else to pander to your whims.

MrsTodd - No, that isn't how it works. If your privacy is set to only friends then it won't go any further just because your friends like it. It will, however, pop up in the newsfeed of mutual friends when they like it.

When you are seeing things your friends 'like' it is because:

• the privacy of the original post was set to open (lots of those ridiculous meme sites, company pages, the daft, etc)
• the privacy of the original post was set to friends of friends.

Also watch how your tagging is set. Does tagging someone open the audience to their friends. For example, I sometimes tag DH and have it so that allows his friends to see photos. But if I was tagging a school friend, I wouldn't.

Facebook gripes is on my list of things "only on MN". In real life, people don't get so het up about photos of children and their privacy on FB.

This

I love posting the occasional family photo with 15 year old DS1 and then trying to tag him. He's a bit Emo and I find it funny seeing him hiding behind his hair and trying to look as if he isn't with us. Unfortunately, he has worked out how to set his account so that photo tags require his permission.

We also have a tradition for our teenagers (this starts once they are 13 and on facebook) that on each birthday, I post a cute photo of them as a baby.

IYanbu. It's Facebook , not exactly highbrow culture. I imagine you have a Facebook friend who wishes you wouldn't post what ever crop it is you post.
(It's facebook, there is only digital crap on it.)

Do I know you OP? I just put a photo of DS on facebook... in my defence I thought it would make my friends laugh. I tend to post mostly silly pictures of my kids, do I worry about how they will feel about it? No not really. It's all part of growing up. Today's was DS in a cardboard box pretending he was at the drive in movies watching a film. It was sweet and humorous. If you don't like it unfriend or hide posts

I think it's very much an 'each to their own' type thing but DH is dead against it but then two of his schoolfriends in unrealted incidents turned out to be paedophiles distributing child porn and amongst the nasty images, in both cases, were reems of photographs taken from facebook.

DH now, quite understandably, thinks privacy settings count for shit when people on your friends list can do that.

If you have a very small group you share them with that you totally trust then there's no harm and i very much doubt your children will mind as this group will likely have seen things like their naked bum running around the garden in the flesh anyway

I like seeing what my friends get up to with the kids, however my nine year old asks for her photos not to be posted.

I agree with op. Personally speaking and I'm not a Facebook fan at all. My ex doesn't share my view. Ds is all over his fb and his family's. Don't think they're savvy with settings either. Nothing I can do. Just have to accept you're swimming against the tide.