Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Saved Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

Flip

1 2

AIBU?

To murder DH slowly and painfully

40 replies

olafisking · 09/08/2015 06:34

He went out last night with a mate. Stumbled in at 1.30, banged into the bed several times and then went into the bathroom and vomited loudly and extensively. After he'd been gone about 10 mins I finally got up to see doing he was, doing, to find he had puked in the sink instead of the toilet and was busy scooping it across. I let him finish then sent him to bed and had to bleach everything including scooping bits he had missed.. Will also have to replace DS toothbrush today.

He then snored all night and was elbowing my head etc. At one point I couldn't rouse him to move him which was scary. DS has now woken up at 6am so I'm sat here knackered and fuming. DH was out all day yesterday at an event before the drinking and the agreement was that he'd do a substantial amount of the childcare in repayment. Except he won't be fit, will he? I really just want to go back to bed but if I wake him earlier than 10 will be miserable grumpy..

So can I kill him?? He's thirty fucking six,, he should be capable of having a drink without obtaining alcohol poisoning. Arsehole.

OP posts:

Report

Anniegetyourgun · 09/08/2015 08:43

YABU. If I didn't kill my exceptionally annoying XH then I'm sure you can manage not to kill yours. YANBU to want to, though. I can't be doing with vomit at the best of times, but unnecessary vomit is beyond the pale.

Report

LuluJakey1 · 09/08/2015 08:53

If DH has anything over 4 pints he is hung over all the next day so never does.
4 pints he staggers home, trots up to bed and passes out into deep sleep and snores. I move into spare room. Will have hangover the next day.
3 pints means likely to indulge in quite uninhibited dancing quite good actually and then get very determined, sexy look and kiss me in a way that promises all things, then he falls asleep as soon as he hits the bed.
2 pints means daft conversation, the kissing and does not fall asleep
1 pint he can cope with and remain normal

He tends to stick at one pint, 2 max.

Report

LuluJakey1 · 09/08/2015 08:57

4 x a year to dink yourself into that state is too much imo

Murder him. Yanbu. Why should you and DC be inconvenienced by it?

Report

Purplepoodle · 09/08/2015 09:10

utterly grim, completely understand your annoyance - it's my sleep being ruined that really annoys me. I now head off these situations - my Dh goes drinking about twice a year with same result so usually I make him stay at friends house (he's more aware he's not coming home so usually doesn't end up drinking enough to be sick) or he has to sleep on sofa where I leave a bucket - it's leather and floors wood so less cleaning for him.

Report

Icimoi · 09/08/2015 09:16

I don't see why people keep saying four times a year is "rare". For me, once a year might just qualify as that. Surely most people have learnt by the age of 25 what their limits are and that puking up and getting a hangover just isn't worth it? If this man was still virtually in a coma even after throwing up, he really has come close to alcohol poisoning, and that is bloody dangerous.

Report

MrsKoala · 09/08/2015 09:37

Maybe they do think it is worth it tho Ici. Why do people have to think it isn't worth it? by any age? (within reason in a previously arranged environment that doesn't affect their children of course)

Report

Icimoi · 09/08/2015 10:35

Is anything worth the risk of killing yourself by alcohol poisoning or choking on vomit? You can have a much more enjoyable evening if you drink enough to relax but not to get so paralytic that you can't remember it the next day.

Report

MrsKoala · 09/08/2015 10:44

Well obviously to some people it is - As many people do it. Perhaps YOU can have a much more enjoyable evening if you drink enough 'to relax' (surely that is subjective?) but others prefer to get paralytic. I think you are projecting your own tastes and expectations on others. One in a blue moon (i do think 4 times a year vomiting is a bit much) getting shitfaced is okay by me.

Report

olafisking · 09/08/2015 10:54

He's up now (just) and very apologetic. He didn't think he'd drunk that much!

I calmed down in the meantime as I've woken up a bit but I will be requesting some rest time later on. I have been very productive - we've baked cheese scones and banana cake, I've done a load of washing, tidied up the kitchen etc. Helps to get on that slightly higher moral high ground!

OP posts:

Report

LuluJakey1 · 09/08/2015 11:08

Actually, I have remembered that one of my flatmates at uni had alcohol poisoning on her 21st birthday. We ended up taking her to A and E and she was kept in for 2 days and got a huge lecture from the Dr and has barely drank since. We are 36- so whatever it was like (poisoning and the talk) it had an effect.

DH has a friend who drinks to oblivion most Saturday nights. His girlfriend is fed up with it. He thinks it's just him being a lad.

I hate real drunkeness. I can't respect anyone who gets into that state if it creates problems for anyone else. I think as I have got older it has lost its entertainment/amusement value and I just see it as inconsiderate and self- indulgent. although at uni I certainly did that

You have to decide how pissed off you are and how big an issue it is and do you want to put up with it.

Report

Icimoi · 09/08/2015 11:38

MrsKoala, genuine question: what is the pleasure in getting paralytic? If you can't remember anything about it and all you are aware of the next day is that you feel absolutely dreadful and have to clean the vomit splattered all round your bathroom, why would you want to do it again?

Report

FurtherSupport · 09/08/2015 12:19

I don't think drinking until you vomit necessarily means you were paralytic or that you can't remember anything the next day Icimoi.

I have drunk myself sick maybe a dozen times in my 45 years but I've never, ever woken not able the remember the events of the night before and I've always had control of my legs if not my- mouth--

I am very rarely sick now but it's not always about how much you've drunk. How you're feeling, what you've eaten and what, rather than how much you drink etc can have a big bearing. I have been ill after relatively little on occasions and others I have drunk far more without ill effect.

I go out a handful of times a year. I wouldn't expect Dh to be pleased if I made a mess and he had to clean it up, but equally, I'd think it was pretty unreasonable if I wasn't allowed to be a bit good for nothing the next day occasionally

Report

duckydinosaur · 09/08/2015 12:34

I was your dh the other week :( went to a family party - drunk so much I was sick. My DH had to put me to bed by 7pm and deal with the kids and had to sort them out next morning. Also had to clean sick out of the car. He was annoyed - but first time I have been like that since I was a student so he was fairly understanding. I have not really drunk in 4 years so just got carried away!

Report

MrsKoala · 09/08/2015 12:47

I don't know Ici? But lots of people choose to. So there must be some draw. I like getting pissed, i am never sick but i do have killer hangovers. However, i enjoy it enough to do it again. And i do it about 1-2 a year.

Report

iamanintrovert · 09/08/2015 13:16

See, I think his behaviour is really bad. Neither DP nor I drink until we're in such a bad state - it would be really rude to the other person to rock up home in such a bad state. That's childish inconsiderate behaviour.