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AIBU?

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to not tell DH I'm pregnant?

27 replies

thebirthlyhallows · 07/08/2015 16:53

Currently trying to conceive DC2.

When we found out I was expecting our first DC DH and I agreed that we would wait until the first scan at 12 weeks before telling anyone else. To be fair I may have told him that's what we were doing and he just agreed.

A week after we find out he told everyone in the pub. I was six weeks at this point.

I had to spend the next day running round telling parents, siblings, grandparents etc before they heard it from someone else. It was not as nice as I wanted it to be.

Fast forward to now. Would I be unreasonable to not tell DH until the day of the first scan? I want to make sure baby is ok and healthy before telling everyone.

I'm not even pregnant again yet.

Fully prepared to be told I am unreasonable.

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WaggleBee · 07/08/2015 18:10

YABU

My DSis did this for no reason other than she didn't want anyone to know except our DM who I assume told my DF. It's beyond unreasonable imo, it's the father's baby too. Particularly as you're in a stable, loving relationship.

Really wrong, the more I think about it.

RunnerHasbeen · 07/08/2015 18:25

I think you tell him how hurt you were and how he ruined the announcement for you. Then tell him that when you stop drinking after a BFP, he will too - to stop it happening again.

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