To find these things disgusting?

[Laindon]

It's not really my place to have my say to the parents, because they're not my children, but I do have a right to have my opinion without voicing it to them at that opinion is quite frankly ''it's disgusting''.

For example, friend's of mine teaching their little daughters to 'pout' and pose with their bums to the side in pictures. Yes, I'm aware these people aren't taking into account the social and biological reasons women pose like this, and think it's just harmless fun taking after Mummy, but I still think it's inconsiderate and they should realise that. One of my biggest hates is someone seeing a little girl in a new outfit and screaming ''sexxyy girll'' or ''You sexy girl!''. SHE'S 3!!!

Another thing that shocks me (but in no way is in the same league as my previous example), and others will probably disagree, is people shouting 'little man' to baby boys (newborns to 1 year olds).

My DB is just 1 and ever since he entered this world, there have been numerous comments of 'Handsome little man' and 'Hey little man'.

Am I alone in this or am I just an uptight cow?

[Laindon]

Hunk doesn't seem too bad for an 8 year old, as they've passed that real baby age and it isn't really sexual, but each to their own I suppose.

[MumOfTheMoment]

I don't know. Maybe I will stop. He is just such a lovely gorgeous tall lovely boy. Hunk fits him in my head.

[Gruntfuttock]

I've just looked up the definition of 'hunk' and it said "a large, strong, sexually attractive man" and that's exactly what the word means to me, so I'm sorry MumOfTheMoment but that jars as much as "sexy girl". I'm not accusing you of having incestuous feelings, of course, it just sounds odd said to a child, especially by the mother of that child, that's all, but each to their own.

[queeneileen]

My auntie was on FB and commented that her brand new DGS was "sexy". I unfriended her over that one.

[dodobookends]

I've begun to think of 'little man' as a bit cringeworthy, a friend calls her ds that and he's 12.

[PoppyFleur]

Sexy to a 3 year old is horrendous.

Little man - fine (not wording I would use but still endearing).

Bubs, bubba, babs - unforgivable!

[PoppyFleur]

Oh and princess or prince to ones cat is completely normal (because frankly they are royalty & we are their servants).

[LiviaDrusillaAugusta]

Poppy Surely it should be Your Majesty for the cat?

[TheRealAmyLee]

Let kids be kids. Little man doesn't bother me but provocative poses and the description sexy for anyone under 18 is a huge no no for me.

[MumOfTheMoment]

Am dropping hunk now Grunt

[daisydukes229]

I agree with the sexy thing and the pouty thing.

But I don't see anything wrong with little man :)

[Marmiteandjamislush]

YANBU re 'Sexy' whatever to a child and the provocative posing. But I think you are about little man. Also what do you mean by 'inconsiderate'? I am really hoping you mean thoughtless of mothers to teach girls to behave in that way and not 'inconsiderate' to those who may respond inappropriately to seeing little girls playing about. Our children are not responsible for an adult's perversion.

[noeffingidea]

Little man is pretty normal. I seem to recall my mum using it to my brothers. I know some people don't like it ,but oh well.
Sexy - I don't like it and did correct people if they used it on my kids. At the same time I realise people don't really mean it literally so I didn't get too irate about it.
Duck lips and 'poses' - just mucking around really as long as it doesn't go too far. They probably just think they're being models or something.

[dillite]

I have a neighbour and another person who's a fellow dog walker and both of them refer to my dog as a sexy little girl. It's fucking creepy hearing that said about a dog, it's even creepier to have someone refer to to a little child as sexy. I used to have a Facebook friend who would post her daughter's photos wearing bikinis or white undies and gushing over her sexy little buns/ sexy tight bum, etc. I felt like the police would be knocking on my door every time one popped up on my screen.

[Marmiteandjamislush]

Dillite that is so grim!

[LilacWine7]

I'm with you OP. It's such a shame children are encouraged to behave like mini-adults. The duck-pout hand on hip thing is horrible. Why should little children care about how they look, let alone be encouraged to look 'sexy'?

The term 'little man' grates, though I'm not sure why. I don't think of it as creepy but it seems a bit silly and sugar-coated... I especially hate it when people refer to a new baby as 'little man' or dress baby boys in mini versions of adult clothes, like flat caps and jeans and shirts with collars and fiddly buttons! I don't think it looks cute I think it looks uncomfortable and a bit ridiculous. 'Little lady' makes me cringe too. Let babies be babies!

[Laindon]

Lilac, you've hit the nail on the head!

[Sazzle41]

What Dillite said. Creepy, creepy, creepy. Hello sexy to a child (& WTAF re. to a dog) is kind of leery, 1970's, dirty old man term. Eugh. Never mind that sexualising children gives paedophiles who protest children are sexual more fuel for their warped ideas.

[Ladyconstance]

I overheard a grandmother calling her very young GS little man. He got cross and said ' I'm not a man, I'm a BOY!'

[CordeliaFoxx]

An ex FB friend of mine posted a pic of her and her 10 year old DD bent over, arse facing the camera with their dresses pulled up - now that's wrong!

[Lurkedforever1]

Yanbu about the use of 'sexy'.
Yabu about 'little man', it's not inappropriate or wrong at all. Unless you mean it in a personal dislike way as I can't stand 'baba' myself.

[Gruntfuttock]

Lurkedforever1 "Yabu about 'little man', it's not inappropriate or wrong at all. Unless you mean it in a personal dislike way as I can't stand 'baba' myself."

OP said (@Fri 07-Aug-15 16:57:47) "Should've probably made it clear that in no way do I find it disgusting to call a boy 'little man', I just dislike it and was interested what others had to say too." That couldn't be any clearer, surely.

[The5DayChicken]

Completely agree with the posing and pouting stuff...I started a very similar thread a few days ago about toddlers being taught it and it was a pretty unanimous "I agree it's disgusting".

Calling toddlers 'sexy' rubs me up the wrong way too...why would anyone describe a child using such blatantly adult terms?

I don't see the issue with 'little man' at all though.

[Lurkedforever1]

Well yes actually it could have been clearer. If op had said why she disliked it, eg whether she dislikes it because its a horrid phrase, or in an irrational just don't way, as I dislike baba, I wouldn't have bothered responding in that manner.

[Pinkball75]

I find it inherently wrong to refer to a child as 'sexy'. Just wrong. And those pouty photos? Just keep on posting them - they're going on my list of kids that mine are definitely not going to be playing with.
I don't have a problem with 'little man', though I can see your point. The one that makes me vomit in my mouth a little is people calling their kids 'my little princess/prince'. Funnily enough, it's usually the same people posting inappropriate poses of their kids and calling them sexy.