Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

... to ask someone to vacate the only disabled bay?

29 replies

AlisonBlunderland · 07/08/2015 15:58

Quite prepared to be flamed. If so, I'll never do it again.
I'm fully aware that one can be young and fit looking and still qualify for a BB

Shopping area in very small town, / large village.
Parade of small shops on both sides of road, yellow lines in one side, ten or so oblique angled bays with only one designated disabled space at one end.

6.30 in evening, so all shops shut but there are a couple of eating places open.
I'm driving, taking 92 old mother out for dinner. She has a blue badge.

I approach row of parking bays from the end where the BB bay is facing me.

The only bay has a car in it.
A young lad is sitting in driver's seat, having a ciggy and checking his phone. I can't see any BB on dashboard.

I give the lightest of toots on my horn, and hold up my blue badge.

Now I expected one of three responses..

  1. He holds up a blue badge, in which case I would have waved apologetically and driven on
  2. He looks embarrassed as he shouldn't be parked there, and he leaves the space
  3. He doesn't have a BB, doesn't give a stuff and stays put / tells me to p* off

What actually happens is a combination of 2 and 3.

He proceeds to move his car but with a prolonged tirade of angry looking faces and words and gestures.

I park there, but by the time I have got my mother sorted, the car next door has moved and the lad reparks in that slot, jumps out and storms off past the shops and round the corner.

We end up sitting in window of Restaurant, with me nervously checking my car in case he returns and plants some dog poo under my door handle!

Should I have just driven on in the first place and parked in the car park a couple of blocks away?

OP posts:
Hedgehogsdontbite · 08/08/2015 10:15

Staying in a car 'ready to move' may assuage people's guilt at taking an essential provision away from a disabled person but it doesn't change the fact that you are selfishly depriving disabled people of that space. How would you even know I needed the space?

susiedaisy · 08/08/2015 10:24

Yanbu if the driver was entitled to be in that space he would of either showed the blue badge or wound his window down and told you. He was in the wrong as far as I'm concerned. It's pure laziness to park in the disabled bays when they don't have a blue badge.

MythicalKings · 08/08/2015 16:24

It's not something I do, Hedgehog but I have seen it done many times.

araiba · 08/08/2015 16:29

he moved when someone wanted to use the space, i don't have a problem with this

New posts on this thread. Refresh page