We've known her 15 years. Used to get on well but gradually drifted apart. I feel she and her DH have become increasingly self-centred over the years. They stayed with us for a week in spring (they invited themselves)... it was awful. I was ill at the time, but I felt all they wanted to do was be waited on, talk about themselves and get drunk. Every night they stayed up until 3am with DH, drinking and talking loudly and having heated discussions, so I couldn't sleep. Neither lifted a finger around the house. They didn't send a thank you text/email after the visit and didn't bother to find out how I was. Friend only contacted us again when she wanted to visit again!
She asked if she could stay for a few days as she's in the area. I said it's not convenient as I'm heavily pregnant (and have severe SPD). So she said she'd come round for an evening instead. Thing is I don't want her coming round at all right now... I don't want the stress of having her in the house, nor do I want to clean and tidy and cook. Also she's likely to stay very late, and I'm too tired to stay up late entertaining. Baby's due soon and I want peace and quiet at home.
WIBU to tell her we'll meet her in a restaurant instead? That way we could meet her for a couple of hours rather than a whole evening. I feel mean, but the thought of her coming to our home is stressing me out after her last visit!