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AIBU to be annoyed about this?

21 replies

FatJabba · 05/08/2015 20:21

I do 90% of the driving in our house. I've been driving for 20 years, haven't had an accident in the last 10 and have never had any points for anything. Unlike "D"H..........

Tonight i was driving "D"H to the pub. In the middle of a conversation about something completely different he asked (bluntly) "would you do an advanced driving course?"

I responded that I might, and asked where the question came from. He refused to talk to me for the rest of the journey. I found this pretty rude as it was mid conversation, and implied that there was something wrong with my driving (which others would agree there isn't).

So, WIBU to

a) never speak to him again
b) deadlock the doors and make him sleep outside tonight
c) suggest the next time that he dares open his mouth that he i) visit a dental hygenist for his disgusting breath; ii) book a consultation for a cock enlargement or iii) just tell him to fuck off.

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woowoo22 · 05/08/2015 20:23

Do you want to stay married?

OwlinaTree · 05/08/2015 20:23

Bit aggressive that he refused to speak to you for the rest of the journey. I think I'd be telling him to get a cab back.

FenellaFellorick · 05/08/2015 20:24

D) never drive him anywhere again.

I assume from your options though, unless they're some sort of joke, that there's more to it than an implied criticism of your driving?

HedgehogAtHome · 05/08/2015 20:27

Honestly can't tell if this is tip of the iceberg stuff or humour that differs from my own.

Original poster
FatJabba · 05/08/2015 20:30

I do feel sometimes that he only speaks to me in order to criticise something I'm doing.

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TheHoundsBitch · 05/08/2015 20:32

You don't sound like you like him very much anyway, so maybe ltb?

DeeWe · 05/08/2015 20:36

I would have thought it was a compliment. My parents did it and it's quite hard. It's not for those who drive badly. It's for good drivers who want to drive better.

Thisismyfirsttime · 05/08/2015 21:58

Is this a lighthearted thread or is there a whole lot more going on aside from your rather odd conversation this evening?

somewheresomehow · 06/08/2015 23:14

Maybe hes been caught speeding and wants you to take the rap for him and go on the speed awareness course for him instead of having more points on his licence

AlpacaMyBags · 06/08/2015 23:35

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

ReginaFelangi · 06/08/2015 23:49

An advanced driving course isn't a speed awareness course.

WorraLiberty · 06/08/2015 23:54

I'm not sure if you're being light hearted or if there is massive simmering resentment over things unrelated to your OP but...

a) Impossible
b) Illegal
c) Downright nasty/sexist.

If he's got a problem with your driving, just refuse to drive him anywhere again.

SniffsAndSneezes · 07/08/2015 00:01

That's very odd behaviour.

Aside from the weirdness of it all, my first thought was that he might be trying to bring down your insurance...

rollonthesummer · 07/08/2015 00:10

Does he often refuse to talk to you part way through a conversation for no reason?

I wouldn't want to be in a relationship like that tbh.

The5DayChicken · 07/08/2015 00:33

Well, him refusing to talk to you is twatty, I agree.

That said though, not having had points on your license, accidents, etc, by no means indicates you're a good driver. Are you overly cautious by any chance? Advanced courses are supposed to be good for that.

I reckon he shut up because he knew he'd get left at the roadside!

Original poster
FatJabba · 07/08/2015 00:51

Are you overly cautious by any chance? Advanced courses are supposed to be good for that.

I have a racing license in addition to a normal license. I don't go beserk off the track, but no, I'm not cautious at all.

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cozietoesie · 07/08/2015 00:59

Maybe he's intimidated by the quality of your driving ? Was thinking about it for himself and thought to run the idea past you to see what you thought about it ?

The5DayChicken · 07/08/2015 01:03

Maybe the not being cautious at all bit is his worry Grin

PiperChapstick · 07/08/2015 01:23

Was he definitely saying it in a snarky way? As this is the kind of random crap my DH would come out (followed by a silence as his mind wanders to somewhere equally random) with along with stuff like "do fish have willies?" And "what is the key in key lime pie" Hmm. Unless there's underlying issues here, or you're joking, you are over reacting

ElementaryMyDearWatson · 07/08/2015 07:30

Is there more to this? As I understand it, you were having a normal conversation, he asked a normal question to which you gave a normal answer, and then he suddenly started refusing to talk to you. It makes no sense.

But, to be honest, if my DH behaved like that he could wave goodbye to lifts from me.

GloGirl · 07/08/2015 07:38

Piper, I have one of those too.

"Do ants hibernate?"

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