to think this is just so bloody rude?
screenjunkie · 05/08/2015 20:05
I'm quite new(ish) to a certain friendship group. I was introduced by a friend of mine and I've slowly become really good friends with the rest.
The group is quite widespread as in we also know a lot of the same people etc. One of those is a guy (the only guy) and on some occasions we have gone out on a girls nights, or a weekend away without him. He's really only close friends with one person in the group, the rest of us just know him through her but we all really like him.
This upset him and of course we felt bad.
I'm having a bbq this weekend and I've invited the group and I sent him a message on fb on Sunday, and he's clearly read it and not bothered to respond either way.
Aibu to think you can't complain about being left out and then not respond to when you are invited??
DoJo · 05/08/2015 23:10
Either way, not replying instantly to an invitation isn't rude - so long as he lets you know in good time before the event (which I would argue is the day before for an informal barbecue) then there is nothing rude about waiting to respond. Just because he complained about being left out previously doesn't mean he should be held to a higher standard for responding to invitations than anyone else.
Summerisle1 · 06/08/2015 00:05
Being otherwise active on Facebook is irrelevant though. I know that I sometimes get messages that I briefly scan before waiting to answer them much later on which is basically when I'm in the best position to answer them properly! So he's not necessarily being rude at all.
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