AIBU?
To help my daughter out with her rent?
cashewnutty · 05/08/2015 16:09
DD and her boyfriend live south of London. She works in London so her transport is expensive. Her bf works ft locally in a NMW job.
Currently they live in his student house but they have to be out by beginning of September.
That eu are trying to find a flat at a rent if no more than £800 per month but they cannot get anything. Because they both work full time by the time they contact the agents about new ones on the market they are gone or the viewing lists are full. I am talking a few hours not days here.
I know if they go up to a rent of £850 to £900 per month they will get something. The £750-£800 range is the most sought after.
Would I be unreasonable to offer to top up their rent money by £50-£100 per month? This would not leave me short and would help them a lot. But on the other hand I know they both really want to try and manage on their own.
They are age 22 and 21 and both have good degrees. They are just finding it hard starting out in an expensive area. DD really needs to give her job 12/18 months before she looks for another to gain experience so they can't really relocate right now although I think they might in the future.
What do people think?
gamerwidow · 05/08/2015 16:22
If you can afford it then do it I'm sure they'll appreciate. The only thing I would caveat is that giving them the money does not then allow you to have a say on how they run the other parts of their life. Obviously you may be entirely unlike my mum but I know if my mother ever offered todo this i would have constant questions of 'did you need to buy that?' Etc
cashewnutty · 05/08/2015 19:07
Isitme I just wanted to check i wasn't making some sort of massive faux pas by offering them money for their rent. I didn't want them to think that i think they can't manage because i know they could - if they could just find somewhere. DD is massively stressed about the whole flat issue and i think this will take some of that stress away.
dlwelly · 05/08/2015 19:14
That sounds lovely. If your daughter isn't keen could you contribute the same in a different way?
I've seen gift cards in Sainsburys designed for students so that you both have one so you can top it up remotely and she can spend it on groceries.
If she's determined to do the rent on her own then this could be a good way to help out and free up her budget a bit more!
MatildaTheCat · 05/08/2015 19:15
They must be quite far south of London to have any hope of getting a flat in their price range. Have they considered renting a two bed flat with another couple? Ok, it does mean sharing facilities and you would all need to get on but it is much more affordable and they could possibly even live further in and save on fares.
However, to answer your question, yanbu, you are being vvk < very, very kind 
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DixieNormas · 05/08/2015 19:26
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skinoncustard · 05/08/2015 19:29
We did something similar for both our DD's
When DD2's partners salary increased he took on the extra rent while she returned to uni for a year.
I know it was greatly appreciated at the time.
Both DDs now have bought property, we were pleased to be in a position to help.
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