To ask wedding experts if I'm invited, if ceremony-only is a thing, and have I RSVPd?

[TRexingInAsda]

We got a wedding invitation, to Mr and Mrs TRexing. Dh put it on the fridge. Just the invitation - no crap:

1. Where is the wedding list/poem?
2. Are the kids invited? They have kids the same age as ours, but I can't assume.
3. Why no details about the 'do' after the ceremony?

The invitation just says it's at X O'Clock at the town hall. Is it possible we are just invited to the ceremony, and not the do afterwards?

Also, it said RSVP by X date. I sent the below FB message to the bride and groom the day before this. Have I RSVPd? I did say we'd 'love to come', but I don't know what to tbh! My message was seen 4 days ago, but no reply!

My RSVP(?): "Hello, sorry but I think [Mr TRexing] has lost all the important stuff from the wedding invitation - I only have the invitation bit itself, on the fridge. So it's [DAY/TIME] at [PLACE] - we'd love to come, I just need to sort out the practicalities. Are the kids invited too or not? If it's no kids, I might have to join you ASAP after dropping [Mini Trex] from school to whoever can babysit, so I'd miss the ceremony - where is the reception after the ceremony and what time would that start? Sorry to be grilling you about the arrangements!! Also, did you have a wedding list? Can you message me a copy or a link to it please? Thanks xx"

The limited seating thing makes sense. We could only have 30 so asked people first if they could make it so we could bump people up the list if they couldn't.

How odd not to include details of the reception. We have a wedding in 2 weeks and it says 'wedding at (place) at 2pm', because of the venue it is obvious that the wedding continues on at the same venue in my case. But I would be miffed with yours too, except that I would know the children were not included in the invitation as their names were not on it. Also, I always rsvp with a request for gift list details :)

What an odd invitation.

1. Your children are clearly not invited.
2. The invitation is a bit short on information.
3. Get the phone number from your DH, and ring them yourself.

I was once invited to a ceremony only, the bride had booked a beautiful old hall and no doubt wanted to fill it. There were candles everywhere and the place full of people looked amazing. Afterwards most people were just left to their own devices, as the bride and groom (and selected friends/family) went off to the reception. The ceremony was over in less than 1/2 hour, but we had dressed up, brought a present along, etc. It upset a lot of people... However, it does sound like in this case it is just a matter of lack of info on the card.

They sound hopelessly disorganised to me.

I would say that children aren't invited though.

Wow missmoon some people really lack class and manners.

I invited everyone to ceremony only 20 years ago, so not new.

I assume you may that clear to your guests though 0x

My dh hand posted a load of invites for our wedding to local friends, without the additional info sheet because he thought they wouldnt need to know any of that. . Needless to say I had lots of enquiries. Perhaps this is what happened?