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To think that the person who took a baby to the cinema is very selfish and inconsiderate

56 replies

ProletarianMum · 04/08/2015 20:33

Went to Cinema today to a 12A movie and a couple took their baby along. It cried reputedly through the film.

Aibu to think this is selfish, unexceptable and inconsiderate.

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MamaLazarou · 04/08/2015 20:34

YANBU. What a strange thing to do. I wonder why they did that.

TheReluctantCountess · 04/08/2015 20:34

I agree. That would be very annoying, and I'd be cross. The cinema is an expensive treat for us.

KingJoffreyLikesJaffaCakes · 04/08/2015 20:34

Yes, it is.

Did the ushers not remove them? Or refund you?

honeysucklejasmine · 04/08/2015 20:36

I would have complained. Unfair.

BackforGood · 04/08/2015 20:37

Totally agree, but sadly, there are some people in life (including some MNers) who think the world revolves around them and their dc.

What did the staff say when you complained?

Addictedtocustardcreams · 04/08/2015 20:37

Don't loads of cinemas do screenings you can take babies screaming or otherwise to now? I don't know why as the couple with the baby you would want to do this. Surely cinema with other babies or video at home much more relaxing anyway?
YANBU

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ProletarianMum · 04/08/2015 20:37

The left halfway. I did complain.

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ProudAS · 04/08/2015 20:38

YANBU and I would have expected the staff to say something

musicinspring1 · 04/08/2015 20:38

You weren't in a baby screening by mistake were you?!?Grin If not, Yanbu, but i would have got an usher if it was bothering me to the point of not being able to enjoy the film. The cinema is expensive! !

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ProletarianMum · 04/08/2015 20:38

We dont seem to have ushers at the local cinema, its quite a run down place now.

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CrystalCove · 04/08/2015 20:39

I take it you complained? My DH has complained a few times about people talking all the way through, going to the cinema is too expensive to waste.

SweetCharityBeginsAtHome · 04/08/2015 20:40

YANBU, obviously. That's what Watch With Baby screenings are for.

Mind you YABU to ask the question. Is anyone actually going to say "my 9 month old is very advanced actually and was just expressing his enjoyment of Ant Man"?

I'm strongly in favour of introducing a minimum age of 8 for 12A screenings in order to stop people taking their 3 year old along to SPECTRE because they can't be arsed to get a babysitter.

contractor6 · 04/08/2015 20:40

Cineworld allows people to take babes in arms to U,Pg,12 movies during the day. Which is why we avoid these films and watch at night. Can understand why if they never get out to go movies, but should be left when baby cried.

shizzlesandglitz · 04/08/2015 20:40

YADNBU. At nearly £30 a cinema trip for us (not including popcorn and drinks) I would be mightily pissed off if a baby was in crying through it.
I'd definitely be complaining.
Selfish, inconsiderate. You want to go to the cinema, leave baby with grandparents or whoever like the rest of us have to do.
(As an aside, no wonder the baby was crying. Will be way too loud for the poor thing, especially 12 ratings with bangs/explosions or whatever!)
Not only selfish for not considering other people, also not exactly got the best interests of their baby there, have they?
Hey, as long as they get their cinema fix though. Hmm

Methe · 04/08/2015 20:42

Well I don't think they're selfish to have gone to the cinema with a baby. They were absolutely selfish not leave when it started crying! I've complained about noisey people at the cinema before now. It cost so bloody much that if I go I want to be able to hear it!

BackforGood · 04/08/2015 20:43

Exactly shizzles

CultureSucksDownWords · 04/08/2015 20:45

What time was the screening? Are you sure it wasn't a baby screening?

Happy36 · 04/08/2015 20:46

Never heard about Watch With Baby screenings; they sound awful.

Agree with the OP that the couple with the baby were behaving unreasonably. They should have left as soon as it started screaming, or anticipated that and not brought it at all. How did the cinema staff respond to your complaint?

NeedsAsockamnesty · 04/08/2015 20:47

Not odd or selfish to take the baby but selfish not to leave if the baby created a disturbance.

Picklesauage · 04/08/2015 20:48

They were being selfish, but I want to point out that only a handful of cinemas do baby screenings, none with 50 miles of me and my 7 week old, and of they do they nearly always suspend them during school holidays.

So I understand why they may have been forced to do it if there was a film they really wanted to see. But they should be like the rest if us and either miss out of go with friends and leave one parent at home with the baby!

19lottie82 · 04/08/2015 20:51

When the last Harry Potter film was at the cinema, someone at the same showing as me had a baby (less that 12 months) with them. What kind of moron thought is would be a good idea?

SweetCharityBeginsAtHome · 04/08/2015 20:53

Watch With Baby screenings are amazing. Great for BF if you're having supply problems because you're forced to sit there for two or three hours and feed. And you get to watch 18 certificate movies for the last time in 17 years (or at least until the DC don't need babysitting).

And they're normally dead cheap, possibly even including free tea and a biscuit. I watched more films in the first year of motherhood than I have before or since (actually only 6-9 months because beyond that age they're not normally happy to nap and feed through a film and they get fidgety).

However you do need to avoid films where complicated plot exposition follows immediately after loud explosions because the babies all wake up and yell. To this day I still haven't a clue what Toby Stevens was up to in Die Another Day. But subtitled films work well.

BuyMeAPony · 04/08/2015 20:54

I used to love Watch with Baby screenings. When I had a baby. The sound is not turned up as loud as normal and they leave dim lights on. My friends and I often went en masse.

I went to one by mistake the other morning. It was utterly hideous without a child. But sadly the only way to see a movie with a baby. Or you get a babysitter or wait for it to come out on DVD/TV.

Going to the cinema is one of the things I always suggest to people who are bored on maternity leave!

sanfairyanne · 04/08/2015 20:54

no big deal taking a baby to a film but you should leave the very instant they start to fuss or cry.

CultureSucksDownWords · 04/08/2015 21:00

Screenings for parents with small babies are fab. Went to loads when my DS was small. He would usually sleep or feed most of the time, or be happy to watch. All the films were 12A or lower though, as I thought that the cinema couldn't let children into anything over a 12A?

If these parents were at an ordinary screening then I don't think it was the best idea. It's not fair on the other people who have paid to see the film.