To think if you have a gender preference it's best not to tell EVERYONE and announce it on social media?

[SweetCharlotteRose]

I have a friend who has a boy and is desperate for a girl. She was horrified to have a boy the first time round but got used to it eventually. She says she will keep having children until she 'gets her girl.'
On fb yesterday she announced it with the usual scan photo and 'baby number 2, it had better be pink this time!'
Then lots of people have said stuff like 'fingers crossed for a girl!' 'You'll have to have it adopted if it's another boy lol' 'second time lucky!'

I suppose I'm sensitive to it as I'm pregnant with a much wanted and long and hard sought second child and I couldn't give a damn what gender it is. I can get that some people have a preference but I just think if it is a boy what will people say when it's born?! Better luck next time? Never mind try again? I'm sure she'll love it whatever when it's here but how horrid to be a disappointment (potentially) before you're even born and got EVERYONE to know.

Aibu?

Honestly, I think people are reading into this a little too deeply due to their own feelings (I don't mean that harshly at all ).

Obviously only OP really knows what her friend is saying and how true it is, but I would see this and file it under 'small talk'.

I have three boys of my own and a DSS. Two are twins. I get this all the time, from strangers as well as people I know. I reply with what they want to hear because I'd rather get up on my horse about other stuff. Yes ha ha I'd love a girl next time, yes I've got my hands full, yes they have their own language etc. I dare say if I were to have another baby and a friend were to comment on it having definitely had better be a girl I might agree.

Like I say, I don't mean to upset but several posters including OP have mentioned fertility issues which I think might be clouding some judgements.

Yanbu I would love a child boy or girl. My husband and I have discussed this and we wouldn't care either way as long as it was healthy!

yes I've got my hands full

I am far more offended by "Three boys? You've got your hands full" than any very impertinent questions about whether I'd rather have had a girl or would go on to try for a girl. Complete strangers shout it across car parks ffs.

My boys are absolute treasures. Ahem.

It seems like gender preference is more of a thing now because of the popularity of gender scans.

Having said that, my Mum's sure that most parents in the 60s/70s hoped for at least 1 son. She was surprised when I told her how things seem to have changed (after reading threads on here). I don't understand why.

In summary, I think it would be better for everyone if parents kept any preference they have to themselves, forever.