To think children should not be 'named and shamed' on Facebook?

[RochelleGoyle]

A friend of mine has shared a post with a photograph of two boys who look about 11 or 12. The accompanying text asks if anyone knows their identity because one of them had grabbed her 12 year old daughter's phone, thrown it on the floor and smashed it. It also says they should be 'named and shamed'.

I completely understand the poster's anger and distress for her daughter, but seriously? Do we really condone the public shaming of misbehaving children? Please tell me IANBU!

Possibly yes Madam but going about it in an unacceptable way, IMO.

Lem You make a good point.

It's funny how police responses vary. We had teenagers damage our fence ages ago and we reported it to the police because it was the second time. The police officer who came out insisted they wanted to know about these offences so they can track what's going on.

Interesting. What does he say Living?

I havnt seen it on fb and wouldnt share it if i did.
But i do think that smashing someones phone is a police matter, its not kids misbehaving

I don't have a single problem with someone posting that on FB. Their age is irrelevant imho.

I don't agree with any sharing or reposting of a random persons anecdote of something that may or may not happen. All this vigilante shit is so petty but is mostly about the fact that you don't actually know what you are sharing is true.

Makes me question the sharer/reposters intelligence instead of applauding their indignant attempt at showing their fb friends how much they 'care' about the situation.

Have happened* awful phrasing there must preview

Your right mary, that is why i think its best left to the police

The police don't care, neither do the schools. My DD had to take her laptop to school at their request, she'd had it two days. Boy smashed the screen. Teacher not even prepared to name the boy but hoped MY insurance would cover it. Police said shit happens. That'll be £800 down the drain for me then. I can understand the mothers frustration

Something along the lines of him and his friends were messing round with the girl. The phone was on a table.mhis mate put his bag on top of it by accident. And when he got his bag later the phone slide of the table and fell to the floor.

I was going to post something along the lines of what ThatJustAintCricket said but they have said it so much better than I could.

Have the people insisting it's fine not read lem's post?

Who took the picture?

How does anyone know it's true? Or that the picture is of the right children?

Someone with a grudge or just mistaken about which child was the guilty one could stick a picture of your innocent child on fb saying they'd done something awful and should be tracked down... your child's name could be added by someone else... and then your address... and then a brick through your window or someone attacking your child vigilante style... All no problem?

could... should... if... then...

Yanbu I had somebody on my facebook name her dds bully as she called her maybe so but she was about 13 i just thought it pathetic and childish there was also fights amongst the parents

I'm torn. But to be honest sometimes this is a last resort for people. And good outcomes can come from them. I think when the police and schools are letting you down it's easy to get to the end of your tether.