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To think vomiting on the carpet is not ok?!

32 replies

Pinkcatgirl · 01/08/2015 07:50

DH out for drinks with friends / work colleagues yesterday. I saw him outside a bar about 4pm drinking beers... Staggers in at 9:30pm saying he's left the restaurant where they were having dinner "because he doesn't feel well". Clearly swaying a bit so follow him upstairs.

He gets into bed then ten seconds later gags and vomits massively all over our bed and lovely cream carpet. After sending him to shower, stripping bed and remaking it, he gets back in (after his brief & unsuccessful attempt to clean up by hoovering up the sick).

Obviously this is disgusting but what's bothering me more is that he refusing to say he was drunk. He just maintains he's "not well". To me it seems foolish to drink for 5 hours if you are not well, and equally possible that drinking for that many hours and not eating would make you sick anyway. Both his parents are recovering alcoholics which he is very critical of as affected his childhood, but he seems to drink more and more and always has excuses - usually that it's part of his work life.

Fed up. Not seen him all week as working away and now having to spend the weekend cleaning up and buying a new carpet instead of having family time.

OP posts:
Petridish · 01/08/2015 17:13

He's an alcoholic and is in denial

Agree with this. If this is happening too often for it to be just an isolated incident of irresponsible behaviour, then he has a problem.

OP - did you really have to post a pic of the sick? Shock

expatinscotland · 01/08/2015 17:19

Bet he was in that bar from lunch time.

I couldn't live with someone who drank like this.

Sorry.

kali110 · 01/08/2015 18:14

Lilac i was accused of just being drunk and then hungover. In actual fact i had a severe case of food poisoning coming on. 3 days later i was still ill.

wrapsuperstar · 01/08/2015 18:44

Did I miss where you explained why he wasn't taking responsibility for cleaning up his own mess today? Yuck, yuck, yuck. This is no partnership.

Cheby · 01/08/2015 18:59

OP my exDP did something like this once, many years ago. He came in from working (to be fair the work he was doing was in a pub and it was ok to have a few pints as v relaxed). Swore blind he wasn't pissed when he came in. We went to bed, 10 mins later he woke up and threw up all over the duvet and wall. Mumbled something about a bad pizza then ran to bathroom to continue being sick while I stripped and changed bed (and opened all the bloody windows). We went back to bed, I woke up 2 hours later to find him stark bollock naked pissing on the bedroom carpet. Still swore he wasn't drunk.

You'll note he's an ex. If my DH did anything like that I'd be taking the kids to my mum's and leaving him to it!

araiba · 01/08/2015 19:00

since when does getting drunk make someone an alcoholic

if anything, those who are sick after drinking are unlikely to be anywhere near alcoholic- theyre sick because theyre not used to it

of course he should clean up though

LavenderLeigh · 01/08/2015 19:28

If you drink to the stage that you are throwing up then you have a problem. Whether it's the first time you've drunk or you drink regularly your body is telling you that you've effectively poisoned it.

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