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To want plastic surgery

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Betty2012 · 31/07/2015 21:48

When I was 9 years old I had a kettle of boiling water fall on me, which gave me third degree burns from my neck to my stomach, both my arms and my back.

I was reluctant to breastfeed due to pain in my breast during my pregnancy as my scar stretched so badly and I'd had extensive survey to that area but it was important to my DP for our baby to be breastfed so I did it. As it happened it didn't work so well anyway so I ended up breastfeeding out of of my less damaged breast, but then got mastitis so went to formula.

I've now had my son and did not breastfeed but now my breasts are so lopsided I just feel like a freak. I have very little in savings but I just want to feel like a normal woman. Wibu to get surgery?

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Goodbyemylove · 01/08/2015 08:33

If you do it on the NHS the process could be months so why don't you see your GP now for a referral?

easterlywinds · 01/08/2015 08:43

Many plastic surgeons on the nhs do both burn reconstruction surgery and breast work. I would go to your GP and see if you can get a referral to one of these guys, especially if you think your breast problems are in any way caused by your scars.

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Betty2012 · 01/08/2015 09:04

Thanks for all the posts.

My dp has completely changed to how he used to be I have to say. He always tells me I look nice and really makes an effort and helps me with the kids, and I don't think he'd go back to being how he was. I'm just very insecure still but I can see how much he is trying and I know he regrets it massively. I wouldn't want to be with anyone else so we're trying to make it work.

My little boy is six months, how long does it usually take for body shape to settle down? I had two stone of baby weight to lose when I had my little girl but a couple of pounds with my little boy but they still seem to keep shrinking?! Hmm

I'm so sorry to hear about what happened to you StarsInTheNightSky that's absolutely awful :-( did you have counselling when you had your surgery?

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Booboostwo · 01/08/2015 10:06

Six months seems too soon. I wouldn't be making any decisions until about 18 months and you have also lost the weight you are hoping to lose.

TRexingInAsda · 01/08/2015 10:17

Surgeons will probably not operate for at least 6 months after you stop BFing, and 6 months to a year after the birth.

Why is he 'helping you' with the kids? Is it your job to do everything with the kids, and if he does something he considers it 'helping you', rather than doing his 50% fair share whenever you both are at home? I had an ex-h who thought he 'helped me' with the housework, wtf? We had no kids and worked the same hours, but I did everything. When I called him out on it, he insisted 'but I helped you with the washing up the other week', as if housework was my job and him doing anything was some kind of fucking favour!

If he's at work and you're at home, you're both 'working' during that time, iyswim. So when you are both at home, you both should do 50:50 of the parenting (otherwise he works 9-5 and you work 24/7). I really hope your self esteem improves regardless of what you decide about surgery. x

Spartans · 02/08/2015 08:23

My surgeon wouldn't operate until I had stopped bfing for at least 6 months and had lost my baby weight. It wasn't a case of losing all of its he want to me to be a weight that I was happy with so he could make sure the size was right.

I wanted to be back at my pre pregnancy weight. The bfing wasn't a problem as I stopped bfing at 5 weeks due to being hospitalised and put on morphine. The weight took a little longer. Dd was 10 months when I had mine done.

I am not going to say LTB, it's entirely your decision and I hope he continues to improve and be a good husband. Good luck op.

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Betty2012 · 02/08/2015 08:47

I'd say we do 50/50 housework, I work part time and he works away for two weeks at a time and then at weekends when he is at home.

Does the no surgery until you've stopped breastfeeding for six months, apply if you didn't breastfeed?

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TRexingInAsda · 02/08/2015 11:17

Yes - it's from whenever the milk stops being produced I suppose - it's nott about the feeding at all, it's just about the breasts having enough time for any physical changes to happen before the surgery, as you want the results to be stable. x

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Betty2012 · 02/08/2015 19:13

Thanks I'm definately looking into it now! I'd quite like a tummy tuck too but I'll start with this :-)

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