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AIBU to want to say something?

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AwakeCantSleep · 31/07/2015 11:18

Need some help dealing with this. So I've been having some mental health problems (nasty anxiety and depression). I'm much better than I have been, but there is still some way to go. I've had time off work, counselling, CBT and medication.

There is a lovely instructor at the gym I go to. She's a young woman. I love her classes and attend regularly. She is now planning on running a course to help people like me with confidence, feeling happy in their own skin etc. (This course is not related to the gym.) Sounds excellent. Main ingredients are exercise, worksheets/discussions and diet advice. She has emailed me more information about it, and now I'm a bit concerned. Main issues:

She is not a counsellor, but essentially taking on mental health treatment (even though she doesn't want to call it that). I'm worried that she has no proper training and support to do this. She is also not a qualified dietician.

It's a long commitment (12 weeks), and she's not run something like this before.

Her pricing (per hour) is essentially what a counsellor would charge, but this is group work (plus individual phone calls). The whole package is very expensive.

I want to continue with her classes at the gym but not do this course. I'm torn between sending a polite "thanks but no thanks" message, and voicing my concerns. I know her intentions are good (she really is lovely), but I can see potential for this to go quite wrong if her clients have mental health issues and she has no training (but has experienced mental health issues herself). AIBU to want to say something, or should I keep out of it?

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Glitteryarse · 31/07/2015 12:44

You are over thinking it - hugely.

Just say no thanks and leave it. I think your probably best finding some ones elses classes to go as I think your too over invested in her

BuriedSardine · 31/07/2015 15:14

I agree with Glitter. You sound a bit over invested.

Anyone else's mental health choices are their own concern, you genuinely don't need to be worrying yourself so much about what others might chose to do.

Just enjoy the classes and concentrate on your counselling and recovery.

Hope you find some peace soon.

WhoNickedMyName · 31/07/2015 15:26

You don't need any qualifications to give yourself the title "Life Coach" which it very much sounds like what she plans to do.

I think you need to take a step back and leave her to it.

AwakeCantSleep · 31/07/2015 16:00

Thanks everyone. I will not mention anything to her.

I've not looked into 'life coaching' or similar before. I guess I was naive in assuming that she should have some related qualification, while you guys don't think this is necessary. I'm happy to be overruled on that.

(Given her (ambitious) fees the whole thing may well not go ahead anyhow.)

I promise I'm not over-invested (she mentioned the course to me not vice versa) even though it may appear otherwise. Topic closed for me. Off to write a polite thanks-but-no-thanks email.

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