Okay back a few months ago my father told my sister he and my step mother were going to leave their house to a cats home.
They also have a flat in Spain which they are leaving to their grandchildren (DS and I have 2DCs each)
Thing is reading that court case about the lady who was cut out of her mum's will made me think.
My dad is still alive so is my stepmother and I do love them.
Bu he left my mother high and dry when they divorced (I was 7) and he subsequently hid his money in my step mother's name ( when my mother (on legal aid and he having a private solicitor) tried to go through the courts.
Over the years, my teenage years he went on skiing holidays, bought three houses - did one up sold one.
All the time claiming he had no money. Then when I get married he calls my in laws specifically to reassure them how much he and my step mother have helped me and my sister.
They gave us the odd £10 and I think £75 to help me with my last months' rent at university (back in the mid 1990s).
I never expected anything more from him, but it makes me angry on my mother's behalf because she had put all her plans on hold; my stepfather (who gave 3/4 of his salary to his ex wife and 2 children while we were growing up) lost his job and she had to give up a place on a fashion design course. She still gets angry. My step father committed suicide and we feel my father's behaviour didn't help. My mum lost everything. This is because she chose to leave my dad on the grounds of his abuse. He was really nasty to her, I won't go into details but I saw the verbal abuse and bullying from a young age - so I've never thought they should have stayed together.
Anyway just ranting really I'm sure someone will tell me how I am being unreasonable.