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AIBU?

to wonder why my non-stingy DP does this?

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CherryBonBon · 29/07/2015 10:41

2 adults and 2 hungry DC in the house.

If I ask him to pick up something from the shop on the way home from work he will bring home the smallest available quantity of everything unless I specify otherwise.

If I ask for milk I get a pint. A pint lasts us a day, max.

Yesterday I asked for Petit filou for 1 year old DS who eats 1-2 large pots after dinner every day. DP brought home 4 pots total Confused .

Why, just WHY! Does anyone else's partner do this?

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TheHouseOnBellSt · 29/07/2015 18:03

Limited cross posts! I should have auctioned DH's cherries on Ebay! Shock We had so many we shared them with the neighbours!

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RJnomore · 29/07/2015 18:04

I am in stitches here at "at least polonium 210 makes you thin before it kills you"
Grin

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Welshmaenad · 29/07/2015 18:05

I'm feeling really grateful for my DH!

He buys what he's asked to, in sensible quantities. Also, he tends to hit co-op as they reduce all the meat, so he'll grab anything that looks like a bargain that we might feasibly eat - then he rings me to check I want it/have the freezer space for it, before he pays. If not, he pops it back on the shelf.

He's incredibly irritating in about 327953 other ways, but as a shopper, he's a fucking gem.

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TheHouseOnBellSt · 29/07/2015 18:05

RJ Some Mumsnetters should be writing comedy eh? Grin

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limitedperiodonly · 29/07/2015 18:14

Tinned fruit is good. I always get tinned pineapple as a base for muesli and plain yogurt with honey.

That's so Mumsnet-tastic.

But it it is nice with sliced apples and bananas in the winter and it reminds me of summer holidays.

I recommend Sainsbury's fruit and nut muesli.

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TheHouseOnBellSt · 29/07/2015 18:18

Isn't it all floating in sugar water though? We've learned to forage berries...we live next to a long lane which is full of plums and blackberries and apples in season and now the cherries we've just discovered!

They're all there for the public but many people won't pick them as it's "a bother" or they're too embarrassed! We don't care! It's not near a road or anything and the land is very old so we know it's not full of industrial waste.

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janetandroysdaughter · 29/07/2015 18:23

Mine's the opposite. If I ask him to pick up milk he'll return an hour later having done a mammoth supermarket shop, even though we had a delivery of a week's groceries the day before.

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limitedperiodonly · 29/07/2015 18:25

TheHouseOnBellSt We were in Sicily and DH grabbed almonds. My dad grabbed prickly pears in Corfu but only with a thick glove.

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Viviennemary · 29/07/2015 18:27

My DH does this too. He once got me a jar of marmite the size of a marble. It was totally tiny.

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PuppyMonkey · 29/07/2015 18:40

My DP is the opposite too. If I ask him to nip and get milk on his way home, he uses it as an excuse to go to Costco (where he likes to stand and stare at drills and cameras). He'll come home with the milk, a catering sized box of Fairy washing powder, six packs of hand wash AND a telly usually Grin

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Lariflete · 29/07/2015 18:50

This thread has reminded me how we used to fight to go shopping with DF if DM ever asked him to pop into the shops for something he needed. We could talk him into just about anything, never mind the fact he usually had some great ideas of his own Wink

DH on the other hand, is eminently sensible and only buys the things I ask for. I pity our children, I really do Grin

We love foraging for berries - bilberry picking today, so our fingers were all stained purple before baths!

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NoMontagues · 29/07/2015 20:01

Your post has made me think lari .

I don't think DF ever went into a supermarket until my mother left him. After 20 years of marriage. Cold comfort back in those days was going over to dad's because he always had loads of fresh bakery bread, donughts and other goodies.

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ShadowStar · 29/07/2015 20:07

DH is an overbuyer.

I made the fatal mistake of suggesting that he picked something up for dinner (along with 2 litres of milk) a few weeks ago. He returned with 6 packets of meat from some "3 for £10" offer, 2 giant steaks, several stuffed crust pizzas, frozen chips, plus a variety of cakes and ice cream Hmm

Luckily we had room in the freezer, because it just wasn't possible to eat all that before it went out of date.

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blueteapot · 29/07/2015 21:53

Lol my DH is a pretty good shopper when it comes to quanities of groceries, he definitely has more self control than me with treats etc - however the only place I can really send him alone is the corner shop - he freely admits that if he goes to the big supermarket he gets sucked in by the clothes, DVDs etc. We needed groceries at the weekend and he was a) quite keen to go and b) keen that we'd to go to lidl for a change despite my having a sainsburys voucher - whatever floats your boatI thought so I was getting the kids ready. In that time there was quite a quick turnaround and it turned into 'why dont you go yourself sure and do it in peace away from the kids'... that'd be because he'd checked lidls website and there was nothing he wanted from the middle bric a brac section this week!!

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SquinkiesRule · 29/07/2015 22:42

My Dh is usually pretty good. We shopped today he made the list and I was adding what I wanted, as I put each thing in he'd say, "thats not on the list" He had me in stiches.
But he's a feeder, the sod makes mahoosive meals before finding out who will be home, so many times he cooks for about 6 and finds it's him and Dd. When I get in he tries to talk me into a big plate of food. I've gained a stone since he became the SAHP
He gets to eat leftovers for lunch every day.
But if he has to go and get Milk or something simple, he will take ages comparing brands and prices to make sure the one he gets is priced right.
Costco is a no go zone thank goodness we moved away from one. He loved his toys from there, and there was always something on special.

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limitedperiodonly · 30/07/2015 17:27

Isn't it all floating in sugar water though?

TheHouseOnBellSt Yes, but if you can get it in natural juice and drain it and even rinse it briefly if you're that bothered.

It's not a bad option if that's the only fruit you can afford.

I also like Sainsbury's Basics broken mandarin chunks in natural juice. Incredibly cheap and colourful with a nice flavour.

Some things you can only get in syrup - plums, for instance. I just rinse them or sometimes I don't.

I make a plum sauce to go with pork with vinegar, chilli, garlic and ginger and often don't bother adding sugar if it's tinned.

The idea of buying fresh plums to make it is just a waste of good plums and good money. Same thing with gooseberries to go with mackerel.

I love fresh gooseberries and am eating them right now with icing sugar mixed with cream. I'm the only one in the house who can stand them.

Everyone else pulls a face like Confused and Shock.

But I'd never use fresh ones in a sauce. They are too expensive.

I realise the ^^ above post marks me out as poncetastic.

I'm sorry Grin

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StarlingMurmuration · 30/07/2015 17:42

Tell me more about this plum sauce, limited!

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mariposa10 · 30/07/2015 17:49

I imagine people are mentioning the sugar because it seems entirely reasonable to me to bring home four pots of petit filous for a one year old child.

If this was a way of telling you that feeding your child massive amounts of sugary yoghurt is unreasonable I'm inclined to agree.

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limitedperiodonly · 30/07/2015 18:02

Really easy starlingmurmuration. I love starling murmurations btw.

If you're using fresh plums only use those sour little ones about the size of an egg. Don't waste nice summer plums.

Wash and stone them, cut them into quarters. Don't skin. Put aside.

Chop some onion and sweat with chopped fresh ginger and garlic in a saucepan with olive oil.

Tip in the plums, some red or white wine vinegar, brown sugar and crumbled dried chilli or chilli powder and hot water.

All to taste and to size.

If you use tinned plums in syrup just drain them and don't add sugar and maybe save a bit of the syrup to sweeten.

You could also use dried ginger and put it in at the plum stage.

Simmer. It should be done in about 30 mins. Taste.

You could freeze it if you have a glut of plums and a lot of freezer space.

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PurpleHairAndPearls · 30/07/2015 18:28

Oh god, DH is a huge over buyer. Even by my standards and our shopping comes from Costco so you can imagine...

Our nearest shop is Waitrose despite living on a council estate and it is lethal to ask him to go for milk Grin

A particular highlight years ago was when he went out to get petrol, and came back with a new TV Smile

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StarlingMurmuration · 30/07/2015 18:37

Me too! Thanks for this, I want to make my own plum sauce for duck but I've been feeling a little lacking in confidence. :)

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bearchomp · 30/07/2015 18:42

My DH was once asked to go to the supermarket to do a bit of a food shop, I'd had an OP, his friend was coming over and the fridge was bare.
He came back with
A crate of beer
Some crisps
Milk
Chocolate
A single tin of beans.
Fuck knows how we were supposed to make a meal from that!

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limitedperiodonly · 30/07/2015 18:48

Yes, it would work for duck.

And possibly starlings Wink

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StarlingMurmuration · 30/07/2015 19:22

Nooo! Poor little starlings.

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