I've been friends with her for three years. I met her at school and offered to help at a charity camping event she was running. We (me, dp and kids) helped all weekend and we became good friends. She's married with five kids.
But I've noticed a pattern of her making a new friend, smothering them with attention, time and offers of help and then suddenly dropping them. She did this to another long term friend last year and then a new shiny friend turned up and she dropped me and a few others. She fell out with the shiny friend who then sent me a series of messages between them both where my friend said things like "coffees dd is a nasty bitch"(dd is 9) and "if I didn't need coffee to pick ds up from school I'd tell her to fuck off". I was devastated.
I confronted her, as did another friend who received emails containing similar content about her. Friend said she was sorry and had been sucked in by shiny friend. We all helped at the camping event again.
This year she has made another friend, farming friend. Friend has now got two horses at farming friends farm and its all she has talked about. She decided to hold the camping event at the farm this year. For months I've been excluded from organising things and we are just back from five days at camp (I'm now bed bound with pain and unable to walk) and she has ignored me all weekend unless I've actually asked her something. She did not ask me to do any activity despite me offering and at the end when I was nearly crying with pain trying to put the tent away and asked for help she said she was busy.
She has posted on Facebook about everyone helping (except me) and bought presents for all the helpers (except me). I was up at 3am helping peg in a tent trying to take off one night, I cooked for two families who had kids with sen and helped look after their kids so the single parents could go to the toilet or get a break.
I know this will out me but I'm hurt beyond words at the way she's treated me but also that she's so obsessed with the farm that she's now basing camp there permanently when it's just not suitable in wet weather. Families left early as they were living in waterlogged tents and clothes. She didn't care but in previous years she's gone out of her way to help others. She's changed so much. I'm lying here in agony and wonder why I bothered.