To go back to bed and let him deal with them?

[OstentatiousBreastfeeder]

I'm at the end of my tether. 5yo and 20mo just scream and winge. I don't know what I'm doing wrong with them but they never seem happy.

We were supposed to be going swimming this morning. No buses run on Sundays into town so we'd have to walk, and now it's pissing it down. So now 5yo doesn't want to go.

I've shouted at them more than I will admit this weekend. Full-on, screamy shouting. I'm just so tired of it. They won't listen. They don't care.

House is a mess and nobody cares. If I don't do it it won't get done. I have zero motivation so it stays a state.

DH is fucking calm as anything because he doesn't deal with this shit 6 days a week and doesn't see why I'm so drained and sick of it all.

I'm laying in bed listening to him try to get them to tidy their toys while they whine.

So wibu to just pretend I'm not here for today?

Its only day 2 of the holidays for us. Fuck me.

[NobodyLivesHere]

I'm currently sat in my car on top of a mountain getting some quiet before I murder everyone in my house. Yanbu

[Fugghetaboutit]

7amliein - mine takes ds out, then when he comes back I take over and he'll go off for an hour or two and do his own thing. I'm sure the op could do that. Being with kids all week is mentally exhausting.

[HolgerDanske]

I will bet you almost anything that aside from the fact that there is usually plenty of time to de stress from parenting at most jobs, plus adult interactions where people aren't whining, crying and hanging all over you half the time, never mind the commuting times which, while busy and tiring are still down-time from the relentlessness of parenting, meaning that the work of work and the work of parenting are generally two very different beasts and cannot fairly be compared, it's almost definitely true that the DH in this scenario does get more time to himself than the OP does. So really, if she feels utterly depleted and at the end of her tether it needs to be addressed.

If my assumptions on the general workings of this household are incorrect I'll be very pleased and happily stand corrected.

OP, go out even for a few hours. You can't properly relax when you're still listening to everything and feeling pulled in two directions.

[Fugghetaboutit]

I agree, it doesn't compare. And op has two of them. I would say try and get out of the shouting cycle. I used a book called 'yell less, love more' and it really helped.
The more I shouted, the worse my ds behaved. One day I woke and and said no shouting today and he was an angel! Maybe coincidence but it helped create a good cycle.

[Mrsjayy]

Yes i had to stop screeching like a banshee at my 2 and honestly they started to behave better i think if you are screeching they get hyper stop listening you shout more.... its hard to break the cycle.