AIBU re Wedding Invite Reply Date?

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I'm getting married in 7 weeks time. We sent out invites about 6 weeks ago with a 'please reply by 20/07/15 and inform us of any dietary needs so we can confirm requirements with caterer'.

We are now in the position that we've had replies from most people invited to the ceremony (limoted to immediate family only due to restriction on numbers set by the venue) - except 2 of my siblings and their families and my dad's only remaining sibling. We are also still waiting to hear back from about half the people invited to the reception.

I was chatting to my mim about it and she thinks I should chase those people who haven't replied. I think that I shouldn't have to spend precious time ringing round trying to chase up potentially 60 people. I mean, it's not as if I have anything else to do over the next few weeks on top of working, renovating a house and everything that gets in the way of sitting back doing nothing in the run up to the wedding!!

AIBU is really all I'm asking?

2 choices.

Chase up and be prepared on the day or don't chase people and risk a) more guests than you have food or b) more food than you have guests.

Tis a pain but presumably you'll be speaking to at least some of them before the big day anyway??!

Yabu, people have lives. Also, are you sure their invitations reached them?

Thanks for all the replies. I promise I'm not being stroppy - was bored last night waiting for DP to come home from work when he was meant to finish at 8pm but, because of others calling in sick, he stayed until 11pm - and has been asked to do the same again tonight.

Regarding the siblings. DB lives quite a way away and, while he knew the date when we saw him at the beginning of May at another family occasion, we've not been in touch since the invites went out. DSis1 is another kettle of fish. When our other DSis got married 13 years ago they married abroad and hired a boat for the party for the family/friends who couldn't go to the wedding in Australia. DSis1 didn't reply to the invite until the week of the wedding (and I quote) "in case she had a better offer come up for the same date"!! Oh, and she will expect us to provide for her dietary requirements (which, thankfully, I know about).

I am going to have to chase people up as I really do need to know for catering as we're having a hog roast so need to know if people can't/don't eat pork or are vegetarian so we can plan alternatives in appropriate quantities. Another relative (a favourite aunt) is making a nut free cake for those who can't have nuts, we've ordered a gluten free cake for just in case and I need to know if we've ordered enough or need to up the order.

I think I'm just cross that we put a reason for asking for replies by a specific date and people haven't got back to us, yet I'm sure they'll be upset if we don't have enough suitable food for them.

For our wedding we sort of split this up into groups. MIL chased DWs side of the family, that sort of thing. Once you ask some people to help then it's not so much work.

This happened to me too, we had foolishly offered a choice of food and had to contact people. When we spoke to people they seemed to be astonished that we didn't somehow "know" that they were or weren't coming?!

They will all contact you on the day before or morning of the wedding to ask where the wedding is at/what time/parking etc etc too. Like you haven't got enough to do.

Creating a wedding website didn't help us with this.