To just start trying

[DeeDee40]

Hello I'm getting married in eight weeks and I want a child ASAP. I've been on the pill for ten years and last time I had a break didn't have a period for six weeks. I feel like coming off the pill now and trying. Is that stupid? Obvs if I don't get pregnant I might have a period on wedding day which I don't want but if I come off the pill now I'm getting a head start!

I'd definitely wait until after your wedding to stop taking the pill - you don't want your hormones going out of whack and having crazy mood swings or unpredictable bleeding on top of the stress of a wedding.

Early pregnancy gave me painful bloating, I just wanted to loosen my waistbands all the time! Not ideal when trying to fit into your wedding dress or enjoy your meal!

I'd wait personally as your body might go through a period of change after coming off the pill. You might get pregnant straight away and then not be able to drink. In itself that's not a problem but would you want to tell your guests or have them ask at under 8 weeks pregnant? You may also have morning sickness etc. I would wait the 8 weeks I think although you are not being unreasonable if that's what you and your partner both want!

I'd wait..I felt awful in the first few weeks of my pregnancies.

Enjoy having a few drinks and chill ...savour that special moment when you tie the knot.

Leave it a few months to enjoy and adjust to married life..there is no real urgency to have baby is there?

You are going to be so caught up in all the paperwork what with changing your name and the long list of companies/utilities you have to contact.

Have a proper honeymoon period and then you'll know when the time is right to try for your baby.

I was 10 weeks pregnant at my wedding, after nearly a year of trying and being referred for Ivf due to apparent blocked tubes. So it was an unexpected but welcome surprise to us. I wouldn't have changed it, although i did find the run up tiring as I ws exhilarated and sick. On the actual day adrenaline kicked in and I felt fine and kept going til the early hours!

I think the above post about coming off the pill and using condoms is a good one. Most people conceive without issues, and from my example many who have been told they have issues do as well. there is a chance that if you do have issues you may feel guilty that you didn't start trying as soon as you wanted to, but that isn't that likely. Also depends if you are a drinker or not maybe? I am usually quite a big drinker but it didn't bother me at the time. Now 25 weeks and it has been a great start to married life!

Good luck with the wedding and ttc.

I came off my pill 10 days before my wedding and was pregnant before the end of my honeymoon. I'd been on the pill 10 years (and was 34). Don't assume it'll take ages for your body to re-regulate!

Mine is a horrid story but worth bearing in mind. I came off pill 8 wks before our wedding, fell pregnant, started to miscarry 5 days b4 wedding. Ended up having to discharge myself from hospital to get married, go back into hospital day after wedding and was operated on when I should be flying on honeymoon. Unlikely to happen to you but why take the risk when you're still young x

Enjoy your wedding being young and free. Have champagne, honeymoon without the unreal exhaustion and ridiculous wind. Then get to it. Ttc is all consuming, but first things first.

Omg that's awful so sorry x

How about stop taking the pill about 3 weeks before your wedding, or maybe 2 and a half? Then you will have a withdrawal bleed which will be predictable and not on your wedding day, and you will be potentially fertile on your honeymoon. Which I think would be good :)
Good luck!

If by complications you meant miscarriage then I agree it is not great to be worried/ suffering while you are away.

I am going to be blunt A lot of pregnancies end in miscarriage. 1 in 4. Something like that. I can't do that calculation of what might happen when but I think wait until after you get married. I know it is a
mean thing to say when you are so keen to start as soon as possible. There is no point in risking having the heartache of miscarriage on your honeymoon. Maybe start trying on your honeymoon?

I hope everything goes smoothly for you and works out well. Enjoy your big day!

Sorry crossed post

Thanks DeeDee. It was over 10 years ago now and I now have 2 wonderful children so very happy and blessed x

Are you me four months ago OP? honestly, I'd wait, 8 weeks is nothing in the grand scheme of things! You could come off the pill to start regulating your body, but use condoms to avoid being in early pregnancy on your wedding day? Like MrsNucky said.

I got married a couple of months ago, it was a stressful enough day without worrying about potential morning sickness etc! Plus think of the champagne you'll miss out on! I thoroughly enjoyed my first glass of champagne as a married woman and wouldn't have wanted to miss out on it! It was like having a fizzy liquid sigh of relief and happiness!

Oh plus a surprise one to come hence the name ????

Don't risk it. Pregnancy sickness is a horrible horrible feeling. Like being on a rocky boat with a bad hangover all day every day. For around three months. Add that to a wedding day and you are fucked. So to speak.

you could fall pregnant immediatley though i have pcos i have very irregular periods it can be six months between periods but when trying for ds1 i came off the pill and conceived within 5 weeks.

I'd wait,and get myself into peak health during the next few weeks (another one who got knocked up instantly!).

Are you taking folic acid?