AIBU to let husband be the 'fall guy'?! Urgent help needed!!

[MsBroccoliSpears]

Hi, am typing this at work on a ten min break so apologies if not that coherent...

My best friend of 30 years used to casually date my husbands best friend. They stopped seeing each other about 10 years ago and havent been in touch since. She has now decided she wants to meet up with him, at a 'party' type thing at our house and wants me to arrange it. He did pop round when she was here about a month ago and she asked me a few days later to arrange something. I asked DH to sort it and he did text - but his friend replied saying he didn't really want to see my friend again :/

I couldn't face telling her this so have kept making excuses, but she KEEPS asking! What the hell do I say? Am I BU to say DH knew this all along but only just told me and I'm just as shocked? Or is that bad? I just think she'll be upset to hear he doesn't want to see her but worse, that I didn't tell her all this time, am feeling like the worst friend in the world right now.

Help!!!

Oh God, this reminds me of someone I knew at college. Broke friends with me/sulked for ages because I would not give her her ex's phone number when her ex specifically told me not to (I asked him if it would be okay, he said he wanted absolutely nothing to do with her). She had trouble believing that but it was the truth. I was not trying to protect him. I was simply respecting his wishes.
OP, hope she doesn't shoot the messenger.

What Buggers said.

She's seemingly very thick-skinned. The minute someone has to be talked into doing something with you, is the minute you back off.

Pinning it on your DH could be a helpful white lie, or just say you were worried about hurting her feelings, that's why you didn't tell her he said no. I find it hard to see how someone could be surprised at that. Her request to meet up with an ex in a committed relationship is very strange and you've humoured her but you cannot do anything about the fact he doesn't want to see her.