To refuse to go on holiday

[manchestermummy]

Absolutely fed up and don't want to go on holiday.

DD2 is being a nightmare. Won't stop whining. Generally non-compliant. Everything is a trauma. Dd1 winds her up continually and won't do as she's told.

I'm very, very low at the moment and my anxiety is not very well controlled. Dh says this is "very hard for him" and doesn't get it. He's not even trying to be sympathetic.

I don't want to go on holiday with two whiny children and a husband who seems not to care.

AIBU to want to stay at home?

Send 'em and stay 'ome.

Your husband probably does care, a lot, and is probably telling the truth when he says that your depression and anxiety is hard for him to deal with. He's just being honest, that doesn't make him unfeeling

Staying at home will probably just make you feel more miserable, go on holiday, have fun playing in the sea/pool with your family, eat ice creams at silly times, dont do any laundry/cook or cleaning - giving yourself some time to relax will help you feel loads better.

YANBU I'm thinking it'd be so much easier for us to stay at home. We're going after school tomorrow and I just CBA putting in all the effort of packing and thinking of activities when they can't stop whining for 2 minutes. So draining and my DH isn't much better at the moment.

How old are your children? Could some of the whinging be down to end of term tiredness? (I sympathise though - whinging kids are awful! )

If so - a break might be good for everyone. A chance to relax and just play. Either do no cooking if that's an option or go for really simple stuff.

You say your anxiety is not well controlled - are you getting support from your GP? Can you see them again and explain how you are feeling?

Dc are 7 and 4 and yes, I think they're tired.

I have some ADs but the side effects were so horrible I nearly passed out at work. So I'm not taking them. Mostly because I was pissing dh off by feeling ill.

DH sounds like a cock.

Try taking the AD's before bedtime, I found that the best way to minimise side effects which should be temporary or see you GP about trying a different kind.

Let's see, he's pissed off if you are ill because you are taking your meds but annoyed if you are not coping well if you're not taking your meds.

Has he misplaced his "supportive hat"?

Ha yes, he's definitely mislaid it.

I'm going to go back to the GP when I get back. Found out today I can access counselling via work, which might be good.