Am I going crazy?!

[TheTowelSaga]

Namechanged as don't want to out myself.

Without going out tmi, my husband and I were intimate last night... I was using the loo and he got up and picked a towel out of the washing basket to wipe himself up with.
I stood up and then asked 'oh what's that towel?' As I had previously done the washing today and knew there was only 1 towel in the laundry basket (which was pink). His reply was 'it's my rugby towel, I just picked it up, it was in the washing basket!!'
Now I wouldn't have really thought anything of it (other than its weird and I was sure it wasn't in there earlier) and just shrugged it off, but then his reaction made me confused as he seemed really defensive.
I told him it wasn't in there earlier, he said he hasn't touched it and I must've put it in there then. He then informed me that he hasn't seen his rugby towel for ages as he has been using my red ones (I can confirm this is true). But I just don't understand how a towel can just appear?! Because it definitely was not in there. I feel so silly as it is only a towel, certainly not an appearing object that would scream affair he has something to hide, but I can't sleep because i keep thinking about it and my mind is working overtime wondering where the bloody hell this towel could have appeared from?
For what it's worth, nobody has been in my house & I only have 1 DS who is a toddler and was never unattended upstairs.

He speaks to you that way in public?! And in front of your son?! Leave the thick fucking twat bastard. He doesn't not respect you and your son is learning how to treat women.

*he doesn't respect you

Oh and his reaction points very clearly to him being a lying liar who lies

I have been in a few crap relationships but have never been called a thick fucking twat or anything like it. If he is doing that in front of your son that's really bad no matter if you 'call it'.

I agree with previous posters the towel is the least of your problems as is often the way in these kind of posts, you know that things are not right and it sometimes takes a relatively small incident to bring this to the surface.

Thank you, this thread has made me realise that we have much bigger issues than a bloody towel. The trouble is we moved to a new city where I don't really know anyone so I don't have anyone to talk to about this stuff and I guess I've just accepted it as normal when it's not and I shouldn't be taking it

Oh op, he sounds dreadful. I swear to god if my partner talked to me like that once I would be threatening to leave....and in public..well I just might leave then and there. It's just vile. You undoubtably deserve better.

The towel situation is weird.

However,the way he acted towards you this morning and talked to you is shocking!

I've also been in abusive relationships but never been spoken to like that (maybe if I had been I'd have figured out how abusive they were earlier). Lack of education is NOT an excuse! I'm sorry you're going through this OP

So basically that towel has probably been somewhere else, has been laundered by someone else, has appeared back in his kit bag now training has started again and perhaps that's because he has recently seen the somebody who has had to towel at their house and it was given back to him?

that is not normal, love

it's not acceptable to speak to anyone like that

I bet he doesn't call the 6ft brickshit-house built rugby players a "fucking thick twat" (and mean it), does he ?

my (late and loved) FIL left school at 12 and had a very poor education

he never treated his wife like that man treats you

Sebsmummy I reckon you're right.

OP, you don't have to accept verbal abuse. Yes, perhaps you're right that he isn't prepared to change so it's "just the way he is". But that doesn't mean you have to stick around and put up with it.