WIBU to ask that he wear pyjama pants?

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I've had an eleven year old bed wetter staying with me this week and she's wet the bed every night. Because she's quite big, and quite a wriggly sleeper, she tends to not only soak the bedmat but the rest of the mattress she's sleeping on, which then needs scrubbing and airing, and the duvet and pillow (not just the cases) which I'm tempted to burn when she's gone

I appreciate its not intentional and that it's a hormonal or a stress thing, and I know I'm being a bit unreasonable because it's not her fault but it's driving me nuts! I worry that asking her to wear effectively a nappy might be distressing for her, and there are schools of thought that say the pyjama pants don't help as they don't learn to wet less by subconsciously responding to a damp bed, but every night she's flooding the place!

WIBU to ask her mum to put her in pyjama pants when she stays?

I had this exact problem. My SIL actually refused to put him in Pps as he didn't like them. She, however, seemed to think it was fine to use my bath towels to tuck under him and dry the stinking wet duvet out on the sun. By the age of 11 it is enough to go right through a duvet, sheets and anything else. Including bath towels...

I just got strict and said, no, sorry it's not ok. It's absolutely not his fault but we have to manage the problem. He then started wearing them and has eventually stopped wetting.

The wetting isn't a problem but refusing to manage it in someone else's home is infuriating.

So do the pyjama pants absorb an 11 yo bladder's worth of wee? That's my other concern, that it'll just overflow the pp and I'll still have a house full of pee.

They go to mid teen sizes. So they'll be designed for mid teen levels of pee too.

So do the pyjama pants absorb an 11 yo bladder's worth of wee? That's my other concern, that it'll just overflow the pp and I'll still have a house full of pee.
For my ds they absorb it most of the time (1 or 2 leaks a month) and even when they leak its not very much. Pull ups use to leak a lot with him because they were designed for small accidents. Drynites however absorb more like a nappy.

Presumably a medical condition so suitable solutions would be reasonable. If you're uncomfortable asking, an interim solution would be a full fitted waterproof mattress protector with disposable mats underneath.

Poor kid. Poor you! Surprised that the parents haven't broached this with you. It's poor form and they need to do something out of fairness to you and their child (who
I bet feels awful at wetting the bed at somebody else's house).

I wet the bed at 11. Apparently genetic (dad and little bro suffered too). If I had been given the choice I would have jumped at the option of the dry nite things (don't think they were around then). So in short - yes, raise it with the parents first and then offer to the kid. I bet she'll be grateful - it's bloody horrible waking up in a soaking bed.