To think two separate collections should be organised

[Daisywellies]

Two colleagues have recently had babies. Someone has just decided that we will do one collection and split the money and has already put the collection in motion. I am much closer to one of the new mothers than the other (who I barely know) and would prefer to give different amounts to each collection.

AIBU to wish that we could have two separate collections.

I know it's a first world problem and not that important but just interested in views.

Sometimes new mum 2 will be at a disadvantage, as people will handover cash for new mum 1, then by the time the collection comes round for new mum 2, everyone thinks "urgh, I've just handed over the last of my money for the last collection, I'll have to miss this one", or "not another bloody collection!!".
It's just the way it goes sometimes.
Contribute a small amount and buy something personal for the one you know

TTWK that's not what you said in your original post. You said the probable reason was one person being nicer than the other so it "serves them right" and "you reap what you sow"

Ilovesooty....probable does not mean definite. it means probable. Of course there could be other reasons why one person gets more than the other, length of service, size of team etc. Either way, it is not fair to insist they both get the same when if arranged separately, one person would get more than the other.

I wouldn't want to take 50% of a join collection at the expense of someone else who should have received more that me had people's true wishes been taken into account.

This thread has been bothering me all day, and I've just done a major search to find it and post because I couldn't let it lie... and Goblin's kind-of said it for me.

I am posting because I am a "do-er". And it fucking pisses me off when people who do NOTHING sit and carp.

So, without being mean, Daisy, if you think there should be two collections, then make it so. Do both, collect the money and signatures on the cards, and buy the presents. And if you don't want to do that, then stop carping about the people who do.

And if you feel you really CAN'T do that, then write a personal message in one card, and just sign the other and buy your friend a present just from you.

Why not opt out of the collection and buy the mum you're close to a personal gift?