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To feel a bit mixed about end of year teacher book

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colourdilemma · 13/07/2015 18:06

Someone in my child's class has gone to a lot of trouble to produce a book for the teacher and has asked for contributions from each child. In itself, this doesn't seem too onerous, but it has gone a bit pressured with children doing detailed pictures and writing, giving photos etc. I am limping towards the end of term and, given that the teacher isn't leaving, would prefer that we stuck to our own gestures and gifts, which I had already planned. It feels a bit like the collection you are asked to contribute a set amount to and I am not madly keen. I definitely wouldn't want it to be a yearly thing. Aibu? Or just end of term grumpy. We have done it, but I would very much have have preferred not to.

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Sallyhasleftthebuilding · 13/07/2015 18:10

I am also limping towards the end of term. Nice gesture, but she sees kids works all day long .... does she want this keep sake? Odd really. Yes you are being grumpy I would be too.

HagOtheNorth · 13/07/2015 18:11

End of term grumpy I think. Smile
We're all knackered.
Was it a YR or a Y6 teacher? People often like to do something extra for the first and the last, especially if the teacher has been especially lovely or creative for the class. And a picture and a bit of writing isn't so much, is it?

HagOtheNorth · 13/07/2015 18:13

I've kept several of my 'books' And cards where parents or children have written something personal and positive and memorable. I
insert the cards into books, and every now and then, I come across them and they cheer me up.

WorraLiberty · 13/07/2015 18:16

How old is your child?

mrspremise · 13/07/2015 19:56

Are you in Wales, OP? Is the teacher a male NQT? I could have written your post myself!! Wink

HagOtheNorth · 13/07/2015 21:11

If he's an NQT, it's a kind thought at the end of his first year as a teacher. Considering the drop-out rate is still massive, it might encourage him to feel that he did make a difference. despite the press.
But perhaps it is too much bother for parents.

colourdilemma · 14/07/2015 11:39

I've sorted it now-thanks for comments. Looking back, it wasn't the thing itself but the stuff surrounding it. It's been done by a very zealous class rep who has been a bit tactless on several occasions, so I wasn't warm to the project to start with! I also question her motives slightly-she likes the limelight.Then, it's not for an NQT, or a leaver and I fear a precedent of ever increasing pressure being set, not just for our class but for others. And to be honest, I love doing homemade, personal gestures for the teachers, but they are between me and the teacher. At our school, they open stuff after the school day so that the child, who often can't do anything about it, doesn't feel they should have got a gift or a better gift. This feels a bit showy. Anyway, it was important to her so we did it.

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colourdilemma · 14/07/2015 11:41

And, I am a teacher, who has really appreciated and kept cards and thought, just would never, ever want parents feeling a three line whip or a sense of "my child's contribution was less impressive than the others" (the book itself went round so others saw what was in already). Hey ho!

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