AIBU?
To be annoyed with DH for letting 4yo DS watch a 15 film?
evmil · 12/07/2015 20:59
I have been away with a friend for the weekend, DH has had the boys (2 15yo's, 14yo, 13yo and 4yo DS). I have come home to find out that earlier DH let DS watch two of the Christian Bale batman films (which are both 15 rated).
DS has been describing in great detail the graphic parts of both the films and I have had a blow by blow account of how Bane broke Batman's back.
I'm annoyed at DH for letting him watch it, and i said so, but he thinks I'm being really unreasonable. My point is that it isn't suitable for him (which DH agreed with!) and that we'd discussed him watching these movies before, as he has asked, and both said that they were not suitable. Despite this, DH let him watch them as apparently DS was bugging him 
. Also, he watched them one after the other, which meant he has spent 3 hours this morning starring at a screen!!
I know it isn't the end of the world, but I am annoyed and DH thinks I'm over reacting. I think DH has been an idiot.
So aibu?
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DeeWe · 13/07/2015 08:03
It depends on the film and the child.
Dd1 and ds both take things very much as they come and are neither scared nor troubled by what they see.
Dd2 is like me and is likely to be found hiding from anything scarier than a Disney U rating.
I have only once seen an 18 and have no wish to repeat it. I only saw that because it was in school lessons.
Ds is 8 yo and he has seen something labelled 15. However this was the A-team. I'd got a set from a charity shop labelled pg, went to look to get more on Amazon and found the same set has been reclassified as 15. That was Saturday evening family viewing when I was little, so I wasn't too bothered.
However I would check a pg thoroughly before letting d2 watch, and wouldn't let her anywhere near a 12 and she's 4 years older than ds.
sashh · 13/07/2015 08:18
Your dh is being a dick.
The older three do not really need looking after do they? He should have taken the youngest to the park or played a game or anything.
I'd be thinking about not having those DVDs in the house if the youngest is able to see them.
Did he also give your youngest a drink of beer, a cigarette and some knives to play with?
LittleLionMansMummy · 13/07/2015 08:54
Are they seriously only a 12a?? The one with the Joker in particular is extremely dark - ffs the Joker "makes a pen disappear" by slamming someone's eye onto it. No YANBU I would have gone mental at dh. They are most definitely not children's films and certainly I know my own 4yo, who is made of really stern stuff, would probably have nightmares after watching any of them.
Jdee41 · 24/07/2015 08:56
I'm amazed that specific film could hold a four-year-old's attention, tbh.
I don't think you're being unreasonable, we all have our own standards with what we want our DCs to watch (our 2 year old DD loves the Simpsons, for example, yet I often get a glaring from DW for letting her watch it), and those films are pretty violent, and not in a cartoony way, either.
That said, I would say some children's films can be much more disturbing for little ones than films made for older viewers - Watership Down? Bambi? The Dark Crystal?
Opheliabumps · 24/07/2015 09:05
grace I inadvertently let my DTs watch Gremlins aged 3, I remembered watching it as a child but had forgotten the level of violence.
They absolutely loved it, but I was frantically forwarding through the worst bits in shock, before looking at the TV guide and realising it was a 15 
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Apart from insisting on a Gremlins tshirt each a while later, they don't seem too scarred by the experience. I on the other hand am still mortified at my poor parenting and now check carefully before letting them watch any of my childhood favourites!
OP yanbu as it sounds like your DH didn't make an innocent mistake, but let your DC watch it to give him an easy time of it.
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