AIBU?
capulette · 12/07/2015 15:20
Sorry pressed post by mistake!
She is actually a lovely person, but has been sheltered (private school and high earning spouse) and pulls faces when we go aomewhere deprived and makes comments about people's looks and the sort of shops.
Wibu to tell her off a bit - nicely?
AreYouThinkingWhatImThinking · 12/07/2015 15:20
I had a friend like that... I stopped being friends with her when she referred to me as "council scum" because I rented a council house and she had a mortgage.
She was in a lot of debt for her snobbery and 'keeping up appearances'... I wasn't.
She was jealous as a result of my lack of debt, and my council house being nicer and bigger than her pokey crumbling little mortgaged house so would belittle me about my council tenancy, or non-designer clothes, to make me feel shit about myself.
I no longer rent from the council as I can now afford to rent private while I save for a mortgage. She got her house repossessed.
Snobbery gets you nowhere in life. Ditch the bitch!
PeppaWellington · 12/07/2015 15:31
Teabag it depends on what your job is - if you're a gardener, they might have a point.
My old bastardy aunt once had a cat's bum face over a new housing development, which included housing for vulnerable adults with learning disabilities.
"Well we don't want that sort around here," she said.
Before I left, I might have spilt milk on the sofa and not told her.
bringbacksideburns · 12/07/2015 15:42
I'd tell her off. But not nicely. Yes she sounds like a real peach. Can see why you're friends with someone who because she's had advantages throughout her life has no empathy or consideration for those who haven't. Those are the people I just gravitate towards!
SpendSpendSpend · 12/07/2015 15:43
I ve been called a snob a fair few times just because i like to buy nice things.
Im not a snob at all. Most of my family live on benefits and i dont look my nose down at them.
They look their nose down at me though because i dont like aldi, charity shops, carboot sale etc.
capulette · 12/07/2015 15:47
The problem is that she isn't a bitch at all - she is very kind.
I think when we go to areas in a low socioeconomic bracket she treats it like a day out to the zoo.
I suggested volunteering at a food bank and she just about wet herself with excitement.
Bullshitbingo · 12/07/2015 15:47
It does sound like she's just a bit naive rather than malicious. If she's not been exposed to much, and is just spouting what she's been brought up with, maybe a few gentle comments correcting her wouldn't go amiss?
I have friends who would look down their noses at certain things, I just find responding with cheery enthusiasm makes them think twice. E.g.
'Urgh, primark is so nasty, I never shop in there it's just full of chavs and all the clothes are really poorly made. I love getting my clothes from...'
I say:
'Ooh but I loooove primark, so many bargains. That green top I wore last week that you said you liked was a primarni special. And I love a bit of people watching when I'm shopping, you get all sorts in there, it's one of my fave shops' followed by big smile.
If they're a total arsehole they'll carry on deriding what you've just said is your fave shop, if not, they'll say, 'oh right, that green top? Maybe I'll have a look in there next time'. Doesn't always work, but most people are just stuck in their ways and need someone to shake them out of it, they don't mean to be snobs. If they're snobby and proud, that's fine too, but at least they know where you stand and that you're not going to agree with everything they say.
Teabagbeforemilk · 12/07/2015 15:48
Teabag it depends on what your job is - if you're a gardener, they might have a point.
That made me snort with laughter. Maybe she thought I was gardener. It was another mum at dds school. Everyone just kind of stared at her an I said 'oh thanks?'
I did actually work in an office though.
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