To take my aunt to court over inheritance?

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Didn't know how to word the title but this is the issue.
My aunt and my mums partner have been listed as the executors of mums will.
Everything has been left to her 4 children.
My mum has a box of jewels/gold.
My mums partner has said to leave the jewels to us 3 girls since my brother will not have use of it.
My aunt has said well maybe he wants to sell it.

We are already getting enough money, all my brother will do is sell it when he has used up all his inheritance on drugs
Us 3 girls will NEVER sell my mums jewels, ever!

I have told my aunt what I want from the jewels. My two sisters agreed I can have it yet aunt is saying maybe brother will want it to give to his 'future wife'
Aunt is saying she wants us all to sit down and divide the jewels.

Me and my sisters want NOTHING to do with my brother. He is a drug addicted sex offender. we don't even want to be in the same room as him even to divide the jewels.

We are happy to take our bits and equally share and give him bits but we don't want to be around him.

My aunt is really annoying me.
Not only about the jewels she has taken PRIVATE family photos from the house saying 'some external family members may want copies'

There are pictures of me in there I don't want anyone to see plus of my dad and my two sisters who both agree these photos are PRIVATE

(Brother is very obnoxious and will say he wants things we want just because we want nothing to do with him. I can see it happening before it has even happened.)
AIBU?

Just get the jewellery valued and give your brother 25% of the value on top of his other 25% share. I'm sure he would prefer cash anyway.

Grrr. Hit post accidentally.

When my maternal grandparents died my mother and her siblings inherited a box of family photos to be shared. They never split them (and it was before copies could easily be made) and instead my mum had physical possession of the box that they all technically shared. Over the years she added our family photos (my parents and siblings) to it - I think probably just as an easy place to keep them. But when my mum died myself and my siblings certainly didn't see that box of photos as just ours, as the original box technically also belonged to my aunts and uncles. We've had all the photos scanned so that anyone can have a copy.

Without going through each photo and trying to work out who owns it (a process that could take years and cause family relationships to break down) offering family members copies may be the easiest option. Ask yourself if your mum was still alive and a relative had asked her for a copy of the photos, would she have given it? Would she have asked you and your siblings for your approval first? If she'd have allowed it I think you need to let it go

What's private about a photo? Your mum was her family too

^^ This.

Just to say, although we are all disagreeing with you, you are obviously grieving and its clouding your judgement a little bit. We're outsiders and so are able to see more clearly. Dont be upset.

Sorry about your mum, you must miss her dreadfully.

Gosh. If my beloved sister died, I'd be very upset if her children didn't want me to even have a copy of family photos. That's really sad.

You need to buy the jewellery off him, it obviously means a lot to you. Problem sorted?

Agree with tobys. Aunt acting in best interest of the will. You buy the jewels off your brother.

My aunt was the executor of my dad's will. She was very domineering, told other family members about how much money we inherited and persuaded her mother (who out survived her son) to change her will to leave my dad's share to her as she felt we "had enough money". You have my sympathy although I agree with the others that your brother is entitled to his share, no matter how awful he is.

I'm so sorry to read this. Dividing up your Mum's treasured possessions is so painful, even without added family tension. I don't think you're being unfair, but I think you'd regret instructing a solicitor as you'd spend a fortune and potentially not get very far.

If it were me, I'd discuss it with your sisters and and propose a solution you're all agreed upon to the executors - perhaps give him a little extra cash to compensate for jewellery?

You're all grieving and you'll all have strong feelings about what's right and what your Mum would want. Try to be as kind as is possible to everyone involved. Sending love.