to add school mums as FB friends?

[ObeseDenise]

I can decide whether it's absolutely fine or it looks like I'm a stalker.

These are mums that I get on well with at school and whose DC are in my DD's class. I don't socialise with them as I'm not in contact with them outside of school but I would very much like to improve my social life and get out more.

I've found a few of them on FB via mutual friends. Will I look like a pathetic/creepy stalker if I add them?

*Disclaimer: Yes I know FB is the work of the devil and I need to get a life if I'm spending my Saturday night overthinking this stuff .

It is fine.

I think if you don't really socialize with them then it is odd. If you want to get to know them then approach them in person. Once you add them on fb, and thinks don't seem to take off then you can't undo it without creating an issue iyswim?

Yes I have many FB friends on mine

I've added and been added by school mums. It's really handy when there's things coming up like non uniform day etc.

All the mums in my boys FB class have made a closed group, so we can all chat, know we're all in the same place, you don't necessarily have to be friends with them but can talk to them through the group, it's good because we remind each other of events and stuff.

Hmm the responses are so varied that I'm no more convinced either way .

When people with whom I have no mutual FB friends have added me in the past I have thought it was a bit weird that they must have searched for me to find me iyswim.

Although these mums did invite me to one of their nights out but I couldn't make it as it was short notice. That must mean they think I'm not awful .

God I'm hopeless.

You've had 4 positive responses and one who said meet them in person first, which it sounds like you've done. And definitely if they've invited you out you're obviously quite acceptable to them!

Don't over think it, it's only FB! :)

I don't. Purely because some of them post their children's every move, breath and crap on there....including playdates etc and I don't put pics of my DC online...and I don't want a part in FB bitching and competitions. My FB is purely for friends.

I've felt obliged to accept some friend requests from people, only to find out I have even less in common with them than I imagined....so, like AuntyMag says, I can't get out of it without its being a Big Bitch Snub.

(I'm going to go wild defriending when we get DS out of that crappy class, though!)

You don't need to defriend people, you can just unfollow them and restrict the posts of yours that they can see.

I'd add them - they might not agree to add you if they only have close friends and family on FB, but others use it as a networking tool and add everyone they've met once.

I stick to real friends- then you don't get all the things that people complain about on MN- much simpler.