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Drezzal · 10/07/2015 14:47

First of all i am a guy, I just thought iv
Would get a mummys opinion on the situation.

I'm a serious relationship with my partner who has 2 kids and we've lived together 6 months.

her sister and her kids all have head lice and are constantly giving them to my partners kids on a weekly basis. The partner keeps getting rid of them but won't do anything about the situation and let's the kids get lice again just because she won't say no to her nieces (about lifting the baby etc)

i love this girl more than anything and think of her kids as my own and would give my life for all of them but it's got to the stage where we are fighting daily about it and she says I'm being childish about it. I told her that if 1 more lice comes into the house then I'm moving back out and last night she let the eldest child stay in her sisters lice infested house. It's killing me but i told her today I've had enough and that it's not over but i can't live in that house watching this daily.

i would like some female opinions on the situation. This has been going on over a year apparently and i want another baby but this will make the situation 10 times worse for me. I can see a life long life with us but not if the problem isn't sorted.

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MarkRuffaloCrumble · 10/07/2015 14:55

Well, as a mummy and a female, I totally empathise with how hard this must be for you, watching some children scratch their heads.

I have no doubt that it's killing you and you'd be more than justified in moving out and leaving this 'girl' to deal with the agony of Hedrin on her own, rather than spending all your energy fighting with her about how she looks after her own DCs.

Either that or shave all their heads?


Reginafalangie · 10/07/2015 14:56

I will brush over the fact you have called posters mummy's Hmm

Head lice are a pain but also part of childhood.
It is terrible that sil DC are having to cope with having them constantly.
Has your GF told her sister? Can either of you offer help to get rid of the infestation such as buying the lotion helping her apply it?
Is the sister struggling hence the neglect of the head lice?

Frankly disowning family over head lice is OTT and what your asking you GL to do is out of line. I understand your frustration but if you are willing to end the relationship rather than offer support instead of demanding no contact or I will leave then ending it is best.


Sighing · 10/07/2015 15:00

You can't erradicate all lice with one treatment. In this situation where eggs are probably hatching and they're just going round and around.
Lice (head lice) do not live long without a human host. A hoover / standard wash of bedding maybe a damp duster to be sure: the house is not infested.
You need to synchronise treatment. Everyone (everyone) in both households a treatment and thorough nit comb out. A week later do the same. The following week (and pretty much for primary school apply lots of conditioner and check with a nit comb).
They are a human parasite. They are not the end of the world. They are tenacious (we have had them before we were homo sapiens!). Vigilance is the only way to keep them at bay.


Sighing · 10/07/2015 15:02

(That should be pretty much every week whilst of primary age)


notquitehuman · 10/07/2015 15:02

This is very worrying. Headlice can be a bastard to get rid of, but it sounds like your girlfriend's sister isn't even trying. That's neglectful, and makes me wonder what she's like as a parent in general. I'm surprised that your girlfriend isn't more worried about the kids.

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