I'm 17 weeks pregnant tomorrow, and after my exP left me I decided to get a private scan at 16 weeks so I could see my baby and find out the sex. Originally I didn't want to but I just wanted something to think about other than my ex who was absolutely vile towards me for keeping my baby after trying to force me into an abortion.
At the scan I found out my little baby is what (hopefully) seems to be a lovely healthy little boy. I couldn't be happier! Despite being convinced i was having a girl because of dreams I was having I was thrilled to be having a boy, although what was between the legs didn't bother me at all.
So I went for a family meal today to make the announcement that it's a boy and on the whole everyone was pleased but my grandmother seemed disappointed at first. We had bought a scratch card that says it's a boy when you scratch it, so we gave it to her to do and filmed it, but her first reaction wasn't a happy "ITS A BOY" it was more of a disappointed "looks like it's going to be a George" (that's one of the names id picked which she can't stand). My aunts all looked thrilled and everyone congratulated me and they gave my grandmother a few looks who eventually seemed happy about it but tried to suggest other names. Then my cousins DD who is 5 immediately threw a tantrum because it's not a girl, saying things like "I'm not pushing it in my pram now!!" And saying she didn't want it. I know she's only 5 years old but it really upset me. This is my first baby and after everything I've been through with my ex I didn't want anyone criticising anything, especially the names I've picked. My aunts told me not to take any notice of my grandmother she's very opinionated.
AIBU to be upset that my grandmothers first reaction was to look like someone had shat on her cornflakes? It took her a while to say anything nice really. She made a joke about taking a pair of scissors to the hospital to cut off the babies Afro (his grandad is afrocarribean so no doubt he'll have Afro like her like his dad) but my nan is mixed race herself with a sort of 'tamed' Afro so I don't know what her problem is. I know she's not happy with how my ex has treated me which is why she's probably slightly unhappy that its a boy but I felt so let down by her response, and the way my cousins DD acted. Like I said I know she's a child and she was probably hoping for a little girl to play with which i understand but it really hurt my feelings. I don't know if it's because my babies dad doesn't want him so I'm eager for the rest of the family to be delighted but after looking forward to that meal I feel so deflated with the reaction. My aunt had filmed the scratch card moment to put on Facebook because it would have been lovely but even she said she wouldn't dare share it because my grandmother didn't look happy at all. It felt like a big kick in the bollocks for me as the negative reactions caused a bit of an atmosphere.
I feel bloody awful for being annoyed at a 5 year old too, and a 70 year old but would it have hurt to just smile and be happy?