Name changed.
I've taken my DS, aged 2, to a local music group about 4 times. The last time I went, one of the women in charge kept asking me leading questions about DS, eg does he really like routine, does he always run like that etc. And then came right out and asked me if I thought he had special needs, specifically Aspergers. I had never even considered this before as I'd always thought he was just a very normal toddler although more active, more stubborn and also perhaps quite bright as he can do some things at a higher level than expected for his age. When we talked further, it seemed obvious that she had no real experience of Aspergers apart from having once met someone who she thinks may well have been aspergers.
The thing is that I suspect that I am on the spectrum myself and it upset me hugely that DS might have to go through the same things that I did. I actually spent the next couple of days crying whenever I thought of it.
However intensive googling has convinced me that DS behaviour is fairly typical of a 2 year old and he could just be more intelligent than most.
He may have Aspergers certainly but at the moment I have no concerns.
Aibu to not return to the playgroup as I feel they will now be looking at him as the boy with Aspergers? And should I tell the group leader why?
I just don't want him to get labelled possibly unnecessarily at such a young age. Other people heard her talking to me. I also think that maybe she should be warned not make these sorts of assumptions in future unless qualified to do so?
DH thinks I'm taking it far too seriously and I should just forget about it. So I'm totally prepared to be told iabu in strident mumsnet fashion.