AIBU to find this slogan annoying?

[ArmySal]

Friend posted it tonight on her Facebook wall.
I've noticed a few different people have put it on theirs recently and the wording is annoying, to me at least.
She's been with her boyfriend for no more than 6 months.
So I told her ''you can't say they're better than a real dad, surely?'' and she now has the hump with me, claiming I have no idea because I've never had a step-dad and nor do my children.
Is it annoying, or do I not understand?


I am aware, of course, that some step-dads are better than the child's own father. Just not all, because they are a step-father.

[RavioliOnToast]

this is my situation, my dh is no better a 'real' dad than step dad, infact tou wouldn't know the difference if I didn't tell you

[Gileswithachainsaw]

It's awful. ad a Pp said many step dad's are good and many are site and many bio dad's are good and site too.

and many have both a dad and a step dad who are both great so where's those t shirts????

[OllyBJolly]

I think it's offensive.

Very cruel to parade this kind of message in front of children.

[FretYeNotAllIsShiny]

It's a shit slogan. And I say this as someone who had a wonderful guy as a stepdad to my kids.

All I would say to that is not all father's are great, a man must be great to be a dad, and if you're lucky, your father and your dad is the same person. I've always told my kids that the terms 'mum' and 'dad' are terms of affection. You can be a father without being a dad, and you can certainly be a dad without being a father.

[pilates]

Op, your friend sounds immature.

Having a dig at her ex on Facebook is very childish. I know it must be frustrating and hurtful when the biological father doesn't step up, but insulting him on Facebook is really not going to achieve anything. Let's hope her children/children's friends aren't old enough to read it.

[Maroonie]

Imagine the outrage the other way round!
Im the step mum in that situation, you just can't generalise with this type of thing

[CainInThePunting]

YANBU it is inaccurate and goady.
I wouldn't take offence though as she probably wasn't generalising when she decided it was appropriate to post, it suited the message she wanted to send out on her FB.

Just for the record, my step dad is THE best dad of all time.

[partialderivative]

I find it very hard to take offence from a tee-shirt slogan. Certainly not this one.

[BabyFeets]

It's stupid

[Foxypaws70]

YANBU - it's inflammatory and hurtful; reduces complicated relationships to a daft slogan. I take offence at a lot of the stuff friends share, but never brave enough to say anything so I think well done you.

[blackheartsgirl]

It's accurate in my case. And in the case of many of my friends whose dps fucked off and dont want to know their kids. Remarried and the stepdad does a fantastic job in raising kids not their own.

of course there are many exceptions and evil stepdads. but I honestly don't see many biological fathers stepping up to the plate. you only have to read the many threads on here to know that's the case.

[blackheartsgirl]

I will get slated I know that. I agree that your friend is maybe a little immature. my dp has been stepdad to my kids for over ten years and has been more of a dad than his real dad

[Gabilan]

Aren't many step dads also biological dads? Which category does that t-shirt put them in?

It's a shit slogan but that's FB for you.