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To re send wedding invite ?

57 replies

Fluffybear86 · 08/07/2015 18:11

Hello all I've sent wedding invites out and people has to go to post office to collect (embarrassing) as they were too thick! People had to pay 11p. One of my friends has not received invite and says she has looked etc and will go post office when off on Friday. However if it isn't there do I resend? The issue is we have one invite left and want it as a souvenir!

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Baguettes · 08/07/2015 19:47

Criiiiiinge.

I wonder how many people have collected them?

I would just email her the details.

Breadkneadslove · 08/07/2015 19:48

To be sure that all the guests you have invited receive invites I would send an email explaining the error and including all of the same info that was put in the original invite, you could always put a photo of the invitation in the email incase some never arrive at their destination!

And I would also probably do something funny like make the guest favours a little box containing the £1.11 or whatever the amount was for the underpaid postage and admin fee Wink

Notgrumpyjustquiet · 08/07/2015 19:50

I think you'd be unreasonable NOT to resend the invites to everybody on the list who you 'hope' has been 'bothered' to traipse to the sorting office and pay out out their own pocket for your schoolgirl error. Have you had many RSVPs yet..? If not, perhaps there are many more who have not received theirs. I've yet to have the pleasure of arranging a wedding of my own but I gather from family and friends that there is actually quite a bit of organising involved. I would imagine that putting a few invtes in the post is one of the simpler tasks. Not a good start, OP!

Grin
Notgrumpyjustquiet · 08/07/2015 19:51

Bread What a lovely idea!

Wine
Getthewonderwebout · 08/07/2015 19:52

It happens, not the end of the world. Let her have the last invite and see if she would mind returning it to you after - or take a photo of it.

Wedding favours - a sellophane bag, tied with ribbon, containing £1.11 and a mention in the speeches. It'll raise a laugh and anyone who doesn't see the funny side is a tit-head!

Getthewonderwebout · 08/07/2015 19:53

bread you beat me to it!

Only1scoop · 08/07/2015 19:53

It's normally quite expensive to collect them. I've just paid 1.51 to collect a letter.

I'd warn everyone and resend a sheet of a4 with all details on and postage paid RSVP.

NerrSnerr · 08/07/2015 19:53

I'd resend invitations to everyone to be honest, some might not have wanted to pay- I know people who wouldn't.

You 100% need to send your last one to this guest, I know you was to keep it but it's your fuck up.

NerrSnerr · 08/07/2015 19:54

Oh and the irony of you calling her a dope!

TopCivilServant · 08/07/2015 19:55

Wow, how thick were they?! Agree that you need to check that everyone has received their invitation as I definitely wouldn't have collected mine and that seems quite a popular suggestion.
Oh well! I'm sure people will see the funny side Grin

Getthewonderwebout · 08/07/2015 19:57

In you defence OP, since they changed the way postage works it's a pissing nightmare. I end up over paying when sending anything more than a simple letter, just to be sure.

chairmeoh · 08/07/2015 20:00

I'm sure you can (or used to be able to) get postage stamps designed with your own pic. A book of them would be a Great wedding favour!

Epilepsyhelp · 08/07/2015 20:08

God no don't bother sending your last one to her, as long as she has the information she won't care if she has the proper invite. That way she won't have to pay the £1.11 too. I would do the funny favour idea too!

purplepandas · 08/07/2015 20:08

Oops, my sister did that. Was noted in the wedding speech :)

Dreamiesrcatopium · 08/07/2015 20:09

This happenned to friends of ours. She put a FB status up basically calling herself a dosy tit and said we could collect if we wished and they would re-imburse or she would pm details. Maybe this would be an easy way of reaching a lot of your guests at once? I would send your last invitation and just order one more to keep.
I remembered this when sending out ours, and had the thickness measured (they had a button, bow type thingy on them) good job as they cost a fair bit more than a normal stamp!they cost

ReginaBlitz · 08/07/2015 20:43

Yes resend then the "dope" will be charged £1.11 again.. Then she will ring you again saying it hasn't arrived Hmm

NerrSnerr · 08/07/2015 20:56

Regina- I'm sure the OP will put the right stamp on when she resends!

GoEasyPudding · 08/07/2015 22:10

I once paid online for an underpaid item to have it redelivered to me but it never turned up, (what ever it was!)

help14993 · 09/07/2015 00:14

OP I wouldn't care less if I had to pay to pick up an invite, I'd think "oh big invite" and go pick it up when I walked past and not think another thought about the price, just "oh look what shall we wear to the wedding dp?!".
Honestly not a big deal and you didn't mean it, at most id make a jokey reference to it in the speech as an actual joke not to make up for my £1.11 sins haha

Whatamuckingfuddle · 09/07/2015 12:36

Goodness, people aren't being very nice, op didn't realise the invites would cost more - easy mistake, not the most embarrassing mistake, she can reimburse obv and make a joke, hardly means she's likely to balls up the entire wedding! Op - just email your friend of make a copy, goodluck

DancingDays · 09/07/2015 12:47

I like to have a physical invite as an email or picture would get easily forgotten. That doesn't mean I would want an 'offical' invite again, could you send a handmade card or a cheap pack of 10 card?

I wouldn't be impressed if I received an invite that I had to pay to receive, weddings cost guests enough already. Have you offered to refund the guests the money?

MrsHathaway · 09/07/2015 14:29

Thing is, when something's underpaid the recipient just gets a standard card through the letterbox and you don't know whether it's a hotly-expected wedding invitation or some bumph from the local Fishing Society. Of course you'd pay your £1.11 for the former, but not the latter, and if you suspected it might be the latter you wouldn't go out of your way.

In all the wedding literature I've seen and when I was planning my wedding I'm sure I browsed every website and bought every magazine the message to check postage for your invitations is repeated over and over again. OP has my sympathies if she checked one at the Post Office and it was borderline, as some staff seem happier to wedge things through the plastic guide thing than others.

DragonWithAGirlTattoo · 09/07/2015 14:36

the guest probably wont want to keep it, she doesnt need it to gain access, let her have the details and keep your last one - are you framing it?

Blondeshavemorefun · 09/07/2015 19:07

it will be a funny tale for the best man to say at the wedding Grin

love breads idea and yes you could sellotape 3 coins together, £1 10p 1p and leave on every place mat as well as obv the original favour

it happens, i sent a big christmas card to my mum and dad on normal 2nd class mail a few years ago, and my dad had to pay and collect and he lovingly moaned at me for the car park fee of £1.00 plus theextra think £1.51 postage Grin